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conversation after 11 months?

TurtleShell

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ive been going out with the same girl for 11 months. thanks to this site. except lately i find ive sort of run out of conversation topics and when we are together there tend to be long silences. i think to compensate she talks to people on the net...

what do i do?
 

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You should be having sex during those long silences. :D

But seriously, you've been going out for 11 months. The "getting to know you" part is over with. You shouldn't be digging for topics any more. You should be talking about how your day has been going, things you see around you, funny things that happen, good old times you've shared, things you know that both you and her are interested in...

I don't see how you can be going out with someone for almost a year and still be "fishing for topics." :confused:
 

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so it isnt considered boring to ask boring day to day things? while she is off talking to guys all night about interesting things?
 

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this is where that wonderful thing called your imagination comes into play.

also, observe things around you. there is never a lack of current affairs (but that's pretty boring) or observational conversation topics. read up on guides to humour in the bible and you'll know what i'm talking about - casanova's post especially.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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im known to say quite funny things, but its hard to be funny when she doesnt give much back to work with, but when we are watching the telly or what ever i tend to come up with funny things. also not all the funny things i say turn out funny but the ratio is still pretty good. and i guess the funny things will sound funnier when they can be contrasted with the unfunny things.
 

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... how can you not know what to say after 11 months? lol. it shouldn't even matter what you say! it's like with a guy friend, you just say random bullsh!t. you don't sit there like a tard. it's supposed to come naturally.
 

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did you read the post?

here it is then, i'll spoon feed you

taken from http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16036

BE OBSERVANT

Keep your eyes open and look around. There is plenty of funny stuff going on constantly, if you are just open enough to look for it. Look for things that are out of place, embarassing things that other people are doing, or anything that just doesn't seem "right". Such as going to the mall and seeing a "Dress Barn" store, and then next door, seeing a "Dress Barn for Women" store. Makes you think. Read, watch, or listen to some George Carlin for more examples of this... he's one of the best.



and listen to tails, that's the perfect attitude, no matter what stage of the relationship you're in
 
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