"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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conversation after 11 months?

TurtleShell

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ive been going out with the same girl for 11 months. thanks to this site. except lately i find ive sort of run out of conversation topics and when we are together there tend to be long silences. i think to compensate she talks to people on the net...

what do i do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You should be having sex during those long silences. :D

But seriously, you've been going out for 11 months. The "getting to know you" part is over with. You shouldn't be digging for topics any more. You should be talking about how your day has been going, things you see around you, funny things that happen, good old times you've shared, things you know that both you and her are interested in...

I don't see how you can be going out with someone for almost a year and still be "fishing for topics." :confused:
 

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so it isnt considered boring to ask boring day to day things? while she is off talking to guys all night about interesting things?
 

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this is where that wonderful thing called your imagination comes into play.

also, observe things around you. there is never a lack of current affairs (but that's pretty boring) or observational conversation topics. read up on guides to humour in the bible and you'll know what i'm talking about - casanova's post especially.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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im known to say quite funny things, but its hard to be funny when she doesnt give much back to work with, but when we are watching the telly or what ever i tend to come up with funny things. also not all the funny things i say turn out funny but the ratio is still pretty good. and i guess the funny things will sound funnier when they can be contrasted with the unfunny things.
 

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... how can you not know what to say after 11 months? lol. it shouldn't even matter what you say! it's like with a guy friend, you just say random bullsh!t. you don't sit there like a tard. it's supposed to come naturally.
 

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did you read the post?

here it is then, i'll spoon feed you

taken from http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16036

BE OBSERVANT

Keep your eyes open and look around. There is plenty of funny stuff going on constantly, if you are just open enough to look for it. Look for things that are out of place, embarassing things that other people are doing, or anything that just doesn't seem "right". Such as going to the mall and seeing a "Dress Barn" store, and then next door, seeing a "Dress Barn for Women" store. Makes you think. Read, watch, or listen to some George Carlin for more examples of this... he's one of the best.



and listen to tails, that's the perfect attitude, no matter what stage of the relationship you're in
 
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