"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Continuing a convo with a girl cold approaching.

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Ive been doing cold approaching lately and It helps when I have those nervousness inside only problem I have lately is trying to continue conversation or try to get a girl to talk a lot or much because shes just like responding to me. So what do you guys usually do after you approach hey how you doin my name so and so whats your name??? how do you keep conversation flowing do you just ask questions about her when you approach her or what?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yes, you ask a question about her and then build off of there. I think "so where are you heading?" is a good one. You can also comment about an article of clothing on her, and again build off of there.

How long do you think one should keep up a convo while cold approaching before asking for the number?
 

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IMO

You'll either have chemistry, or you won't. Throw out a question and run with it, ex: 'What the heck brings you to the library on such a beautiful summer day?'. Not that hard to keep the conversation rolling at that point.

If it still feels forced and awkward after a minute or two, never be afraid to hit the eject button. Not every approach requires a number close.

If the conversation is going well, chat long enough to built some rapport (few minutes), she'll need to feel comfortable to give up her digits, but take your bow while the conversation is fresh and exciting, as it will leave her wanting more.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pay attention to the girl and notice things about her - purse, clothes, hair, any little thing that gives you something to talk about.

You've said you're in St Louis, and I've told you to at least pay some attention to Cardinals baseball. Every woman in St Louis is in love with Yadier Molina. His is the most popular jersey for women to wear. They just had a giveaway at the stadium of them, so there are probably 50,000 women walking around St Louis in the same shirt. You could develop a routine just for them when you see the shirt. "Are you Yadi's girlfriend? Is he going to get mad I'm talking to you?" That's an example of tailoring your line and conversation to the situation.
 
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