"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Continuing a convo with a girl cold approaching.

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Ive been doing cold approaching lately and It helps when I have those nervousness inside only problem I have lately is trying to continue conversation or try to get a girl to talk a lot or much because shes just like responding to me. So what do you guys usually do after you approach hey how you doin my name so and so whats your name??? how do you keep conversation flowing do you just ask questions about her when you approach her or what?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes, you ask a question about her and then build off of there. I think "so where are you heading?" is a good one. You can also comment about an article of clothing on her, and again build off of there.

How long do you think one should keep up a convo while cold approaching before asking for the number?
 

the_stig

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IMO

You'll either have chemistry, or you won't. Throw out a question and run with it, ex: 'What the heck brings you to the library on such a beautiful summer day?'. Not that hard to keep the conversation rolling at that point.

If it still feels forced and awkward after a minute or two, never be afraid to hit the eject button. Not every approach requires a number close.

If the conversation is going well, chat long enough to built some rapport (few minutes), she'll need to feel comfortable to give up her digits, but take your bow while the conversation is fresh and exciting, as it will leave her wanting more.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pay attention to the girl and notice things about her - purse, clothes, hair, any little thing that gives you something to talk about.

You've said you're in St Louis, and I've told you to at least pay some attention to Cardinals baseball. Every woman in St Louis is in love with Yadier Molina. His is the most popular jersey for women to wear. They just had a giveaway at the stadium of them, so there are probably 50,000 women walking around St Louis in the same shirt. You could develop a routine just for them when you see the shirt. "Are you Yadi's girlfriend? Is he going to get mad I'm talking to you?" That's an example of tailoring your line and conversation to the situation.
 
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