"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Continuing a convo with a girl cold approaching.

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Ive been doing cold approaching lately and It helps when I have those nervousness inside only problem I have lately is trying to continue conversation or try to get a girl to talk a lot or much because shes just like responding to me. So what do you guys usually do after you approach hey how you doin my name so and so whats your name??? how do you keep conversation flowing do you just ask questions about her when you approach her or what?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yes, you ask a question about her and then build off of there. I think "so where are you heading?" is a good one. You can also comment about an article of clothing on her, and again build off of there.

How long do you think one should keep up a convo while cold approaching before asking for the number?
 

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IMO

You'll either have chemistry, or you won't. Throw out a question and run with it, ex: 'What the heck brings you to the library on such a beautiful summer day?'. Not that hard to keep the conversation rolling at that point.

If it still feels forced and awkward after a minute or two, never be afraid to hit the eject button. Not every approach requires a number close.

If the conversation is going well, chat long enough to built some rapport (few minutes), she'll need to feel comfortable to give up her digits, but take your bow while the conversation is fresh and exciting, as it will leave her wanting more.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Pay attention to the girl and notice things about her - purse, clothes, hair, any little thing that gives you something to talk about.

You've said you're in St Louis, and I've told you to at least pay some attention to Cardinals baseball. Every woman in St Louis is in love with Yadier Molina. His is the most popular jersey for women to wear. They just had a giveaway at the stadium of them, so there are probably 50,000 women walking around St Louis in the same shirt. You could develop a routine just for them when you see the shirt. "Are you Yadi's girlfriend? Is he going to get mad I'm talking to you?" That's an example of tailoring your line and conversation to the situation.
 
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