"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I had a date yesterday with this girl.Everything went ok.
Now I have a question.I know that you "shouldn't" contact her for 2-3, whatever days after first date,BUT we have each others MSN id's and we are at the same time online (when she/I am at work).So how to not contact her if she can see me online.
I know that I can stay invisible or whatever,but it's like hiding from her (and it is way more AFC then just to speak with her ,right? ).
So is it that wrong to just speak to her when we see each other online (even everyday till the next date)????And if it is :confused: what should I do ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No it's not like hiding. She'll never know when you are actually there or not.

Talking to her everyday will decrease some of that mystery and excitement that will carry you through your next date.

So if you want to mess it up, go ahead.
 
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She'll never know when you are actually there or not.
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The thing is that I'll know that I am hiding from some girl to seem like the ultimate "ALPHA" and have lot of stuff to do :cheer: ....
 
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dont go onto msn. use a different name.

rite now ur in a lose lose situation

i dont trade screen names

if u hide from her, its creepy

if u talk to her, you lose value and become one of her girlfriends
 
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yogy said:
So how to not contact her if she can see me online.
I know that I can stay invisible or whatever,but it's like hiding from her (and it is way more AFC then just to speak with her ,right? ).
So is it that wrong to just speak to her when we see each other online (even everyday till the next date)????And if it is :confused: what should I do ?
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Am I missing something here?? Just don't contact her for a few days! What's so hard about that?

Just because you have her MSN handle doesn't mean you need to speak with her on it.

If she does initiate a conversation with you, then apparently the date went over well. If you don't hear from her no sweat, just contact her in two or three days, whatever.

No need to hide from her, it makes you look like even more of a challenge if your online and not speaking to her. What's so hard about that?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just because you have her MSN handle doesn't mean you need to speak with her on it.

If she does initiate a conversation with you, then apparently the date went over well. If you don't hear from her no sweat, just contact her in two or three days, whatever.
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That what I was thinking too,but just wanted some opinion. :kick:
 
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yogy said:
So I had a date yesterday with this girl.Everything went ok.
Now I have a question.I know that you "shouldn't" contact her for 2-3, whatever days after first date,BUT we have each others MSN id's and we are at the same time online (when she/I am at work).So how to not contact her if she can see me online.
I know that I can stay invisible or whatever,but it's like hiding from her (and it is way more AFC then just to speak with her ,right? ).
So is it that wrong to just speak to her when we see each other online (even everyday till the next date)????And if it is :confused: what should I do ?
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Firstly using MSN there is an 'appear offline' option.

The reason they say not to make contact for a few days after is to appear like you're not needy etc. I'm not so sure this is a good idea. It may depend on how you both got on with one another.

I'd like to hear some opposing views...
 
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DjDan said:
no girl would go out with you if she didn't wanna fuck you.
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Thats not always the case.. haha.
 
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