"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Constant delays?

TheNewGuy

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Alright so I've been working on this girl for a while.

Last tuesday: We were supposed to hang out, she called to ask what time to come over. Turns out I had a hair cut, so she said she'd come over Friday.

Friday: I call to ask her what time she's coming over, she says her friend is still over her house. She then says we'll hang out monday.

Monday (today): I call her to see what she's doing. She says she's in my neighborhood, driving by. I go "Oh ok, so what time are you coming over?" She tells me she'll call me back. This was 30 minutes ago.

I'm pretty pissed, I think I'm just gonna next her. I just think it's weird how she's been saying she'll come over on day X, but then for some reason can't. Why would she say she'll come over if she intends not to?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheNewGuy said:
Alright so I've been working on this girl for a while.

Last tuesday: We were supposed to hang out, she called to ask what time to come over. Turns out I had a hair cut, so she said she'd come over Friday.

Friday: I call to ask her what time she's coming over, she says her friend is still over her house. She then says we'll hang out monday.

Monday (today): I call her to see what she's doing. She says she's in my neighborhood, driving by. I go "Oh ok, so what time are you coming over?" She tells me she'll call me back. This was 30 minutes ago.

I'm pretty pissed, I think I'm just gonna next her. I just think it's weird how she's been saying she'll come over on day X, but then for some reason can't. Why would she say she'll come over if she intends not to?
She's one of those girls who is trying too hard to not shatter your self esteem by being nice, and saying that she'll do things with you and not showing up, rather than just telling you that she isn't interested. Next her.
 
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Tactic #1 is to simply distance yourself and wait for her to close the gap. Don't initiate reactions with her unless it is to "call her back" or something of the sort for a week. If she reinitiates and tries to get together, take her off of probation status. Don't get too frustrated about flakiness unless it becomes a chronic (more than two weeks) condition. You just have to accept that sometimes, there are schedule conflicts that are just unavoidable.

-Damian
 

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Mr_rogers said:
She's one of those girls is trying too hard to not shatter your self esteem by being nice, and saying that she'll do things with you and not showing up, rather than just telling you that she isn't interested. Next her.
Ouch. Truth hurts...


Thanks though
 
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