"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Considering celibacy for a couple months

captain55

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Just got out of a relationship, Im one of those guys who really can't juggle work, women, the gym, and friends at the same time.

I've hooked up with some fine ass women in the past year but at the end of the day what do I have to show for it? Some memories and fun stories:whistle:


I'm thinking about stopping dating all together for 3-6 months so I can really focus on my career, getting in great shape, and improving myself. . MY question for you guys is have any of you done this before?

Part of me feels like a woman is required in a man's life for important mental health and I am very prone to depression. But I'm also a realist, Im 22 and need to get my ****ing career together and I know that the time I spend chasing women will just hold me back.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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skinnyguy

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Ya I know how you feel. I feel incredibly depressed when I'm not out there hooking up with women. You need to find something to replace sex that makes u happy
 

Suspens

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If you stop dating, you will start wanking again.

Sorry, there are no alternatives. Video games, drugs, cheap hoes, etc.. You don't want to think about those stuff.

You have a point though. If you manage to push your career forward and become the real thing, the chase will be over or at least easier, since girls will come to you without much effort.
 

Mike32ct

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I think it's a good idea.

Obviously dry spells are much more difficult at the OP's age than at mine, but it is an opportunity to improve yourself and see that puzz isn't everything.

You can still fap sometimes (unless you are going about this hardcore). But definitely avoid porn.
 

marmel75

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F that...

You were made to have sex, why deny your urges?

I worked 12 hours a day, worked out like a beast and still had time to put it down...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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