"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Considering a Vasectomy

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Infidelity, pregnancy scares, child support, court jurisdiction over your life, being a woman's b!tch financially and legally, etc. have me considering a vasectomy.

The number of ways in which women can ruin our lives is incredible. We have a generation of entitled women happy to criminalize men and the white knights behind them make it all worse. The worst part is that they get all this power from our seeds. Once a woman is pregnant with your baby, she can practically take control over your life.

So what are the alternatives? I really can't see myself getting married or staying with the same woman for 18 years. And the dating pool out there is making me disappointed to say the least. I rather grow old without children or raise my own or an adopted child by myself than to have children with the wrong woman and regret it.

Has anybody else considered getting a vasectomy? Serious things at stake here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't be ridiculous.

I've knocked women up. Even have kids.

Those women are no way in my life but my children are. It is nice.

Don't worry too much. Life is good.
 

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Don't be ridiculous.

I've knocked women up. Even have kids.

Those women are no way in my life but my children are. It is nice.

Don't worry too much. Life is good.
Where do you live?
 

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Don't be ridiculous.

I've knocked women up. Even have kids.

Those women are no way in my life but my children are. It is nice.

Don't worry too much. Life is good.
And how much are you paying in child support? Not worth it to have children with a girl I’m not going to marry.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Or you could change the type of woman you date and see. If you not planning to bang different girls often, no need for a vasectomy.
 

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All women desperately wants children from a man they consider superior.

Even if I live in the US, I'll still get away with child support.
You didn't answer the question.
 

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Hell no...plus I knoe people who had it done and still got women pregnant...

You want to make yourself sterile? Start taking Testosterone...you'll be 98.6% sterile...highest success rate of anything non surgical you can do...and you'll feel phenomenal
 

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I had mine done when I was 30. I knew by my late 20's that it was something I was certain about. I didn't want any kids and neither did my wife at the time.

There was a time in my mid 30's where I had some 2nd thoughts that crept up when I was dating this single mommy and got close to her two kids. Luckily that passed.

The way I see it, if I ever get that desire to raise a kid I will do the Big Brother thing or adopt.

I'd take plenty of time(2-3yrs) to think about this before making a decision that is difficult and expensive to reverse.

Realize most of your reasons for wanting a vasectomy are rooted in fear. What if you had the perfect girl that eliminated most of these fears? Would you still want a vasectomy? Just some ideas to contemplate.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I had mine done when I was 30. I knew by my late 20's that it was something I was certain about. I didn't want any kids and neither did my wife at the time.

There was a time in my mid 30's where I had some 2nd thoughts that crept up when I was dating this single mommy and got close to her two kids. Luckily that passed.

The way I see it, if I ever get that desire to raise a kid I will do the Big Brother thing or adopt.

I'd take plenty of time(2-3yrs) to think about this before making a decision that is difficult and expensive to reverse.

Realize most of your reasons for wanting a vasectomy are rooted in fear. What if you had the perfect girl that eliminated most of these fears? Would you still want a vasectomy? Just some ideas to contemplate.
Good reasoning here. There is no perfect girl. But she may be better than what's out there now.
 

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Or you could change the type of woman you date and see. If you not planning to bang different girls often, no need for a vasectomy.
Most of my life has been LTRs. Now, I want to sample a good number of women or play the field. No LTRs for at least a year.
 

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If you don't want kids this is VERY liberating for the woman.

If you do want kids, freeze your sperm.
 

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I just came inside a girl, she’s snoring in my bed. She is 2 weeks and 4 days after period. I googled fertility cycle and she woke herself up snoring. “I google fertility cycle and it says 2 weeks” she says “well it’s 2 weeks and 4 days”

I pause, “ I think you should get the morning after pill” she then sighs like this is the most annoying thing she’s ever heard then says “well do u wanna pay for it?” I go “yeah” she goes “it’s £30” I say “that’s fine” now I know these pills are like £20-25 sobwhy is she lying.

I’m so done. Condoms all the way from now on. Fvck this sh1t.

I’m gonna go to bed now and make her take the damn pill tomorrow then I’m done with these loose canon chicks. At least with my ex she was career and fun minded and dreaded the thought. She even got the plan b pill when she missed 2 days of her contraceptive pill. She was a smart girl, smart girls look after themselves.

I can’t even enjoy the post orgasmic chill right now, I’m smoking in bed googling and posting this. Fml.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you don't want kids this is VERY liberating for the woman.

If you do want kids, freeze your sperm.
Not sure what you mean by "vasectomies are VERY liberating for the woman." Please elaborate more into what you want to communicate.
 
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I would never do this.

I'll bet there are all kinds of undiscovered things about how it is terrible for your health.

Did you know that our entire body exists just to keep our reproductive system alive?

If a girl ever demanded that from you, she is a terrible person.
 

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I had one done and don't regret it one bit (although I already had a child at the time). There are ways to have kids after you've had a vasectomy, and they're not cheap. The way I see it, if my GF wants to have a child with me, she'll be the one to pay for the procedure. If she's willing to do that instead of taking the easy way out and fvcking some other dude, then she's probably not going to go anywhere.
 

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Nah, I'll just spank the monkey.:p

 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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