I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I think your right on the money with that. And no I'm judging based off of skills not looks.GotED? said:You are probably mixing up a dude with 'no game' as in judgting his outer appearance was at a much lower level than the HB girl he was with.
What you don't understand is also that - depending on the girl (or woman), she may be settling down with that 'AFC' who is well educated, financially secure, and spoils her where other men would not that has game.
You always have those exceptions, the gold-diggers, etc.
Never was the nice guy. Was the funny **** as in I would make fun of girls to entertain myself so it would not come off as douchy. I've never drowned a girl in compliments. I would just open then use what she gave me to bust on her with.Harry Wilmington said:Just because you don't think they have game, doesn't mean they don't have game. You just don't know what game they're running.
For example: even after learning all there is to know about getting women, I wouldn't say my "game" is very forward. The version of the game I play is the "patience" game, where I don't over-extend myself to a woman in the beginning, thus making her desire to see me more. For example: I'll see a girl at a party I want to hook up with, and wait 2 hours before talking to her. During that time I'm talking to friends, dancing, acting goofy, and looking like the life of the party, so that she's DYING for me to talk to her. By the time I do, it's nothing to get the digits and be making out with her or having sex with her before the night is over. After that, I play the game again: I wait 3 to 5 days to hit her up, ask her out, and show her a good time, then repeat.
Someone looking on the outside, though, might think my game is lousy - and, perhaps if I had a different personality it would be - or that I'm not using any game at all. But I am. As it stands now, the "patience" version of the game works wonders for my dating/sex life.
If you were "charming and good" before, you may want to get a second opinion. A lot of times, guys who are "nice" think they are being charming when they're really saying things that sound overly-sappy or complimenting girls all the time - in effect, they're trying to be charming but coming off to girls as non-genuine. A guy with no game can still get girls just by simply asking them out - for all the stuff we learn on here about having to trick a girl into liking us, sometimes a simple "hey, you wanna go to the movies sometime?" will get him the date just because the girl respects him for being bold enough to ask her out.
Hope this helps!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.