You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I think your right on the money with that. And no I'm judging based off of skills not looks.GotED? said:You are probably mixing up a dude with 'no game' as in judgting his outer appearance was at a much lower level than the HB girl he was with.
What you don't understand is also that - depending on the girl (or woman), she may be settling down with that 'AFC' who is well educated, financially secure, and spoils her where other men would not that has game.
You always have those exceptions, the gold-diggers, etc.
Never was the nice guy. Was the funny **** as in I would make fun of girls to entertain myself so it would not come off as douchy. I've never drowned a girl in compliments. I would just open then use what she gave me to bust on her with.Harry Wilmington said:Just because you don't think they have game, doesn't mean they don't have game. You just don't know what game they're running.
For example: even after learning all there is to know about getting women, I wouldn't say my "game" is very forward. The version of the game I play is the "patience" game, where I don't over-extend myself to a woman in the beginning, thus making her desire to see me more. For example: I'll see a girl at a party I want to hook up with, and wait 2 hours before talking to her. During that time I'm talking to friends, dancing, acting goofy, and looking like the life of the party, so that she's DYING for me to talk to her. By the time I do, it's nothing to get the digits and be making out with her or having sex with her before the night is over. After that, I play the game again: I wait 3 to 5 days to hit her up, ask her out, and show her a good time, then repeat.
Someone looking on the outside, though, might think my game is lousy - and, perhaps if I had a different personality it would be - or that I'm not using any game at all. But I am. As it stands now, the "patience" version of the game works wonders for my dating/sex life.
If you were "charming and good" before, you may want to get a second opinion. A lot of times, guys who are "nice" think they are being charming when they're really saying things that sound overly-sappy or complimenting girls all the time - in effect, they're trying to be charming but coming off to girls as non-genuine. A guy with no game can still get girls just by simply asking them out - for all the stuff we learn on here about having to trick a girl into liking us, sometimes a simple "hey, you wanna go to the movies sometime?" will get him the date just because the girl respects him for being bold enough to ask her out.
Hope this helps!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.