"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tharam04

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There's this one girl that I know and we've had a lil something going on for a while now.

What I don't understand is why is it that when one of us doesn't go to the other person's place for a while (at least a few weeks) or we don't talk at all (including phone, text, IM, Facebook, etc), she asks "Where you been?" or "Why you been hiding?" or "What all have you been doing?" the following time that she sees me?

I tell her what I've been doing (school, work, or chillin), but it's like she don't understand. She'll repeatedly ask me the same question until I say something that she don't expect me to say or she see that I'ma keep giving her the same answer.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tharam04 said:
There's this one girl that I know and we've had a lil something going on for a while now.

What I don't understand is why is it that when one of us doesn't go to the other person's place for a while (at least a few weeks) or we don't talk at all (including phone, text, IM, Facebook, etc), she asks "Where you been?" or "Why you been hiding?" or "What all have you been doing?" the following time that she sees me?
That's called being social. If you haven't seen a friend in a while, what did you say to him first time you see him again? "Hey, how's it going?" You kinda want to know what he's been up to.
 
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