"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tharam04

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There's this one girl that I know and we've had a lil something going on for a while now.

What I don't understand is why is it that when one of us doesn't go to the other person's place for a while (at least a few weeks) or we don't talk at all (including phone, text, IM, Facebook, etc), she asks "Where you been?" or "Why you been hiding?" or "What all have you been doing?" the following time that she sees me?

I tell her what I've been doing (school, work, or chillin), but it's like she don't understand. She'll repeatedly ask me the same question until I say something that she don't expect me to say or she see that I'ma keep giving her the same answer.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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tharam04 said:
There's this one girl that I know and we've had a lil something going on for a while now.

What I don't understand is why is it that when one of us doesn't go to the other person's place for a while (at least a few weeks) or we don't talk at all (including phone, text, IM, Facebook, etc), she asks "Where you been?" or "Why you been hiding?" or "What all have you been doing?" the following time that she sees me?
That's called being social. If you haven't seen a friend in a while, what did you say to him first time you see him again? "Hey, how's it going?" You kinda want to know what he's been up to.
 
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