"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There's this woman I work with who keeps texting me. Don't see her too often as we work different shifts. Anyway, she has a bf & I have a gf but she displays mayjor interest to me (lots of kino, sexual talk etc..). She says she only likes me as a friend but she acts like its more than that! I just tease and neg her a lot, no real friend talk goes on. I know you shouldn't listen to what a woman says so do you think she could like me even though she text me saying she doesn't (maybe because the bf & I have a gf?) Her friends also thinks she likes me :L

Any help on this chick appreciated
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tictac said:
She's using game on you. If you're interested, game back, see where it leads as fast as you can move.

Otherwise, enjoy the attention and play.
Yeah I would agree she's got her game in place, why send me such mixed signals though? Using me as a backup if her & her bf doesn't work or maybe she's planning a change of men? Such a confusing woman!!! :L
 

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acerazor1 said:
There's this woman I work with who keeps texting me. Don't see her too often as we work different shifts. Anyway, she has a bf & I have a gf but she displays mayjor interest to me (lots of kino, sexual talk etc..). She says she only likes me as a friend but she acts like its more than that! I just tease and neg her a lot, no real friend talk goes on. I know you shouldn't listen to what a woman says so do you think she could like me even though she text me saying she doesn't (maybe because the bf & I have a gf?) Her friends also thinks she likes me :L

Any help on this chick appreciated
Judging by your conversations with her I say she's into you, but you have a girlfriend to think about.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tictac said:
Push-pull. Works doesn't it? Turn it around on her.

She's a woman. They don't think like we do.
So do chicks use these techniques on purpose like us men do? Or do some just unintentionally use them?
 

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Most girls like to play a bit for attention, some take it further then others. I think most of them wouldn't actually follow through on it though, they just like it as a kind of fantasy. It's best that it stays that way especially as you work with her so just enjoy the play.

Interesting question would be: would she be so into you if you didn't have gf? Does she just feel ok playing with you knowing that it can't lead anywhere?
 
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