"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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acerazor1

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There's this woman I work with who keeps texting me. Don't see her too often as we work different shifts. Anyway, she has a bf & I have a gf but she displays mayjor interest to me (lots of kino, sexual talk etc..). She says she only likes me as a friend but she acts like its more than that! I just tease and neg her a lot, no real friend talk goes on. I know you shouldn't listen to what a woman says so do you think she could like me even though she text me saying she doesn't (maybe because the bf & I have a gf?) Her friends also thinks she likes me :L

Any help on this chick appreciated
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tictac said:
She's using game on you. If you're interested, game back, see where it leads as fast as you can move.

Otherwise, enjoy the attention and play.
Yeah I would agree she's got her game in place, why send me such mixed signals though? Using me as a backup if her & her bf doesn't work or maybe she's planning a change of men? Such a confusing woman!!! :L
 

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acerazor1 said:
There's this woman I work with who keeps texting me. Don't see her too often as we work different shifts. Anyway, she has a bf & I have a gf but she displays mayjor interest to me (lots of kino, sexual talk etc..). She says she only likes me as a friend but she acts like its more than that! I just tease and neg her a lot, no real friend talk goes on. I know you shouldn't listen to what a woman says so do you think she could like me even though she text me saying she doesn't (maybe because the bf & I have a gf?) Her friends also thinks she likes me :L

Any help on this chick appreciated
Judging by your conversations with her I say she's into you, but you have a girlfriend to think about.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tictac said:
Push-pull. Works doesn't it? Turn it around on her.

She's a woman. They don't think like we do.
So do chicks use these techniques on purpose like us men do? Or do some just unintentionally use them?
 

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Most girls like to play a bit for attention, some take it further then others. I think most of them wouldn't actually follow through on it though, they just like it as a kind of fantasy. It's best that it stays that way especially as you work with her so just enjoy the play.

Interesting question would be: would she be so into you if you didn't have gf? Does she just feel ok playing with you knowing that it can't lead anywhere?
 
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