"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Confused By This Woman!!

OI812

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Hi, Im new here and have been reading for awhile. I was wanting some opinions on this chick I meet.

Heres this situation, this chick had her best friend get my number, so she calls me and wants me to go out with her another couple. By this time, we had talked several times on the phone. So I do and we go out to dinner. After dinner, the friend (couple) leaves, and she says shes tired and wants to go home (its only 9:00 PM). So I tried to give her a goodbuy kiss and she turned a cheek to me (I didn't think much of it). The following week, I asked her out, and we went to a baseball game (she loves sports) and afterwards, I tried to take her to dinner and she says she has a lot to and has to get home. Again I tried to kiss her and she turns and gives me a hug. By now im wondering what I did wrong. I asked her out again this past weekend and she said she had plans.

This girl calls me every day to talk and acts like she's so into me but when it comes down to it, she seems scared. Her best friend says that all she talks about is wanting a boyfriend. The other night after the game, her friend called me and asked me if "I got any"...I told her I couldn't even get a kiss. Her friend just laughed.

That first night when we went out (with the couple) I overheard her talking to her friend about having condoms in her purse. So I know she's not scared. What gives with this girl. Its not like Im trying to play her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blong1068

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She wants a boyfriend, but not a guy who wants her. You are showing way too much interest, that's why she doesn't want to pork you. Be a jerk for a week or two, and if you still aren't in her pants, NEXT.
 

Maestro Monk

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Next..one thing i would advise against in the future is telling her friend/s any details about your date/s. If they ask, just tell them to "ask her", or, you if you must, use as little detail as possible. Or you could always tell her to quit acting jealous. :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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1) don't talk to other women about people you are dating - ever. Basically every word out of your mouth will be spread to every women within spitting distance of her friend.
2) she doesn't like you (for whatever reason) - stop wasting your time. If she calls just ignore it and move on to someone that likes you.
 
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