"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Confused about her ..

Ill_Nino

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Hey everyone I would like to know what you think about this girl..

I've been talking to this girl for about 3-4 weeks now (since school started) and I've got a crush on her. She sits right next to me, always glaring at me. When we talk, I see her pupils are dialated and shes always touching my forearm or my wrist. But about a week ago, this guy got his class changed into ours and now thy are talking and passing notes to eachother. She glares at him saying hes cute to me. I don't know if shes trying to get me jealous or what. I asked her friend to see if she likes me but her friend says she doubts it 'cause she already is in love with another guy. Last thurday she started glaring and talking to me again, not even noticing the other guy anymore. Today, she told me about her plans about the future (what shes gonna do, what she wants her husband like and stuff.) Then she told me where she lives and most of her personal info. I don't know if she likes me or what. WHat do you guys think? Should I ask her my self if she likes me or should I be quiet?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Porky

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No. Don't ask her.

Go into class, chat with her. At the end, walk a little with her, and say nonchalantly "hey, I have to go to class. we should hang out some time."

She'll say Yes, Yes, of course I will Ill_Nino! At that point you say "Let me get your number then."

If you ask her if she likes you...no, that is far too blunt and might embarass her.
 

LilKid

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lol

he already asked the friend, she probably told the girl you like, and either you're the laughing stock of their convos, or she does actually like you, thats why shes coming back to you...or maybe she is just winding u up
 

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you should have done something sooner, if she likes this other guy its cos you didnt move in quick enough.

the only way to find out for definite is to ask her, dont bother going through friends cos thats always messed up and the other guys right. if you told her friend then she will have told the one you want.

id say you should just ask her tomorrow in class, dont make a big deal of it just say so would you like to go out tomorrow night? and see what she says.

if she says no its her loss, just move on n tap some other ass.
 

Capt.Jack Sparrow

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LMFAO What a prick I was hahahaha...

Ill_Nino was my other user name before I changed it to Capt.Jack Sparrow


Man I was a complete afc... "does she like me?" hahahaha... if only I could go back into time and kick myself in the face.

this post embarasses me... haha I've changed so much.. I guess everyone had a post like this when they first joined, right?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Supremo

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Porky said:
No. Don't ask her.

Go into class, chat with her. At the end, walk a little with her, and say nonchalantly "hey, I have to go to class. we should hang out some time."

She'll say Yes, Yes, of course I will Ill_Nino! At that point you say "Let me get your number then."

If you ask her if she likes you...no, that is far too blunt and might embarass her.
True dat.
Don't think that because she touches you and her pupils dilate when she sees you that she'll come on to you.
Be a man. Motha ****in ask her out! At least to hang out, if nothing else.
This other dude is obviously rackin up brownie points with her. Don't miss your chance!
 
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