"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Greetings gentlemen,
I'd yyour thoughts on this although I'mpretty sure iIknow what your answers will be.

I met a woman through twitter a few years ago. She was 40 at the time wwith2 ppreteen boys. She was married as far as iI knew but told me she was in an open marriage. I know her hhusband through social circles but never interacted.
Against my better judgement we ****ed. Very lame sex actually but at the time I was really low and at the height of my beta.
Biggest redflag was she told "i love you" the minute I came after she blew me.

We carried on a ****buddy ssituation for about a year. I would see her husband and aacknowledgehim and he wwouldn't respond. I asked her about that.. She said.. "oh.. He's just acting up"..

At that point I called it off.

Fast forward to last summer we meet up to catch upand she tells me she has a friend she wants to introduce me to. A mid 30s single mom.. Tons of tattoos (concealed by work attire).
Me and this friend start dating. About 2 months in to seeing each other she invites me to her place and I spend the night. The sex was Ok. A few days later we go a friend of hers birthday party. Every one of her friends are like.. "oh.. YYou're the guy"
she got a little drunk andstarted behaving a bit wild for my tastes. Throwing ice at tthe DJ who didn't play a song she liked for example.

I was really turned off by her behaviour. So iI pulled back.
I was unconsciously keeping her as a plate I guess. I hadn't read aabout redpill or plate ttheory at that point.
Everytime Itried to set up a date something wwould come up with work or her child.
Then I started running into mutual friends and they'd ask me.. "how are things withher"
II'd reply that we're both busy and just haven't been able to connect

So last week... My open relationship'friend' texts me and asks hhow's my love life. I say it'sbeen quiet. She asks if iI'd friend zoned the one she introduced me to.
I said.. I hope not..
She then says she has to go because she she continues texting now she'sggoing to want to **** me.
I say Yeah... Not a good time

I tried to set up a date with her friend this week and she cancelled last minute because of child iissues.

I think I've lost frame and it's time to move on. What say you, gentlemen?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Augustus_McCrae

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Yes, it sounds like you might be avoiding a fair amount of drama and frustration if you move on.

-Augustus-
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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