Hello everyone.
This is my first post in the forums. Actually, this is more like a question I want to look into.
I'm not really into flirting as a set of intructions and techniques. Maybe most of you disagree with me. And it's ok, I don't want to convince you of anything. I prefer to leave that to trial and error, and finally to experience.
However, there's a thing.
I'm a normal, post teenager guy. In looks, I'm fairly average or even a little below if I compare myself with my friends. I'm not an artist and I don't wear wacky, flashy things like dreadlocks, piercings or mohawks (nor any of its variations). I'm not even into fashion clothes, so I would say that there are a lot of guys more attractive to me in terms of looks.
But I like to pick up girls on the street. Well, more than pick up is like talking to them, showing them who and how I am in a fun and nice way, asking her facebook if she's interested.
There are two things about that:
On the bad side, that almost never works. They usually see me as an annoying, talking guy in an hostile environment where they just want to home/her destination (and being honest, like most people do).
On the good side, is so simple that doesn't even qualify as being aggressive or harassing. They don't dump me, instead they show me her lack of interest.
But there's another way. When for some reason a girl is attacted to me and is showing me her looks. When that happens, I exchange looks with and approach her to say some cliche like ask for the time and soon she gives me her facebook with a big smile on her face.
That rarely happens, but when it does, is a thousand times worth more than the first.
And here's where the interesting thing kicks in.
If for some lucky star that passed by, I get a number or facebook contact, I feel so great and happy that my stance in that day changes completely.
Therefore, my chances of getting the looks of a girl next on that day scales enourmosly. I even stop looking for them. In fact, I stop trying anything. I just feel great about myself and a little amazed about this. There was a day I got hit by three different girls just because of this. Two of them gave me her facebook and I started an open but affectionate relationship with one of the two.
The third looked at me when I was stepping out of the bus. I sat in front of her, giving the back. I never looked, I was just thinking of this and feeling great. When I was stepping out the bus, I was given the same looks.
And that's it. On the next day, I get back to normal.
I started thinking "what the hell? they looked like they smelled my confidence. That's great, but I want to do that consciously and not relying on luck".
So I wondered if you have some piece of advice to say.
This is my first post in the forums. Actually, this is more like a question I want to look into.
I'm not really into flirting as a set of intructions and techniques. Maybe most of you disagree with me. And it's ok, I don't want to convince you of anything. I prefer to leave that to trial and error, and finally to experience.
However, there's a thing.
I'm a normal, post teenager guy. In looks, I'm fairly average or even a little below if I compare myself with my friends. I'm not an artist and I don't wear wacky, flashy things like dreadlocks, piercings or mohawks (nor any of its variations). I'm not even into fashion clothes, so I would say that there are a lot of guys more attractive to me in terms of looks.
But I like to pick up girls on the street. Well, more than pick up is like talking to them, showing them who and how I am in a fun and nice way, asking her facebook if she's interested.
There are two things about that:
On the bad side, that almost never works. They usually see me as an annoying, talking guy in an hostile environment where they just want to home/her destination (and being honest, like most people do).
On the good side, is so simple that doesn't even qualify as being aggressive or harassing. They don't dump me, instead they show me her lack of interest.
But there's another way. When for some reason a girl is attacted to me and is showing me her looks. When that happens, I exchange looks with and approach her to say some cliche like ask for the time and soon she gives me her facebook with a big smile on her face.
That rarely happens, but when it does, is a thousand times worth more than the first.
And here's where the interesting thing kicks in.
If for some lucky star that passed by, I get a number or facebook contact, I feel so great and happy that my stance in that day changes completely.
Therefore, my chances of getting the looks of a girl next on that day scales enourmosly. I even stop looking for them. In fact, I stop trying anything. I just feel great about myself and a little amazed about this. There was a day I got hit by three different girls just because of this. Two of them gave me her facebook and I started an open but affectionate relationship with one of the two.
The third looked at me when I was stepping out of the bus. I sat in front of her, giving the back. I never looked, I was just thinking of this and feeling great. When I was stepping out the bus, I was given the same looks.
And that's it. On the next day, I get back to normal.
I started thinking "what the hell? they looked like they smelled my confidence. That's great, but I want to do that consciously and not relying on luck".
So I wondered if you have some piece of advice to say.
