Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I think we've found the problem. You assume that using confident persistance is an AFC trait, which is only used hand-in-glove with other AFC traits. In reality, it isn't.
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1. I'm sorry for the confusion. Chasing is chasing to me, whether your pretending or actually acting confident. I can see your point of view though. I can even picture a confident person with a ****y devil may care grin on his face persuing a girl. Yeah I feel you.
2. My only point was to offer you another technique to work with your confident attitude. Think of it as confident and in control persistance. When you add that layer of control or using certain techniques to boost your level of sureity then your game is that much stronger don't you agree.
Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Spending lots of time and money chasing after some girl who is with another guy is AFC and stupid. But as far as I'm concerned, so is "next"ing a chick if she exhibits any sign of not absolutely worshipping you from the outset.
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1. I agree here also. Except we are not talking about a girl worshipping you. Just showing signs of interest.
2. Here is a rule of thumb that will save you lots of time and effort: If she isn't choosing then move on. What that means is that if she isn't showing any signs of buying what your selling then it makes no sense to try to sell her in the first place.
3. Wouldn't you agree that even attornies have to sell there services. But if a person has no need of an attorny why would one waste his time trying to sell them, you see what I mean.
Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I'm a pretty confident guy -- I know I've got a lot of things going for me. My own place, great job, friends, personality, humor, whatever. But I can't always advertise that on a big billboard I carry around with me. Once a girl is exposed to the wonder that is Giovanni Casanova, I'll hook her more often than not. It's just getting her to that point.
So I could say, "I'm gonna ask her out, but if she can't go then she's nexted." And then she thinks nothing of it. But in reality, maybe she just hasn't been exposed to Casanova enough yet.
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1. I never said next her if she couldn't make it. I was merely offering a better way to insure your success, so that she can experience the wonder that is Casanova.
2. I like your confident attitude!!!
Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
What I've found is, I'll ask a girl out, and maybe she'll go or maybe she won't. Whatever. And then something comes up -- she doesn't return a phone call, or she has to cancel a date, or whatever. Most guys here are ready to "next" her. And if that's your bag, then fine.
But what I did here, and have done successfully other times in the past, is just roll with it. I don't make a big deal about it. I don't get angry and I don't avoid her. I just dazzle her with Giovanni Casanova. And all of our interactions during this time period is seen in the context of me having asked her out.
Girls hate the idea of letting a good one get away. So when you ask them out the second time, if you do it right, it won't seem like begging. She'll feel LUCKY to get a second chance with you.
That's what confident persistance does.
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1. I cannot recall ever being in a situation of "What I've found is, I'll ask a girl out, and maybe she'll go or maybe she won't." But if that is ok with you then so be it. I like mine in plain black and white (no pun intended). Either she is choosing or not. Like a computer bit either it's on or off.
2. Women know within minutes of meeting you if whether or not they want to sleep with you. It doesn't take all that dating and cavorting around trying to impress her to get in there. Remember women always know if they are going to get laid.
3. I agree with you on your nexting policy in part. I do give a woman another chance if she has to cancel. I do not recall the last time this has happened to me, but I do realize that shyt happens...which isn't what we are talking about. I thought our discussion was on the advanced techniques I offered you.
4. "But what I did here, and have done successfully other times in the past, is just roll with it. "
Yeah I like this statement. You gotta treat it like it's no big deal and roll with it. If she can't hook up then call the next one in the rotation.
5. "So I could say, "I'm gonna ask her out, but if she can't go then she's nexted." And then she thinks nothing of it. But in reality, maybe she just hasn't been exposed to Casanova enough yet
As I said we are not talking about nexting a girl...merely a better way to insure your success. I think we got off to a wrong foot here. You keep thinking I'm talking about nexting when I wasn't.
And also like I said women know who they are going to give the pvssy too. I'm sure you have a dazzling personality that draws women in. Like you said you have a good job, friends. That would make you very very marketable.
In marketing the customer must have a need for what's being sold. If there isn't a strong need for the product "YOU" then market to customers (women) who need what you have and will be more appreciative of YOU solving their problem (lonelyness and finding someone nice to date).
I preffer to make getting women as easy as possible instead of a struggle. When you struggle you set yourself up for putting her as the prize and you below her.
Women are used to men chasing after them all day long whether they are confident with dazzling personalities or just plain dorks and geeks.
But to reverse the game and make them persue you, now that is the real challenge wouldn't you agree Casanova.
Oh sorry about mispelling Attorney and loneliness, I do type really fast sometimes and I don't spend enough time editing my words for perfect punctuation and grammar.