"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think Im ****ed up or something. I used to be confident leader of the pack all that. Man I was leading so much **** back in the day. I had a whole pack of **** and we beat people up and kicked it all that. I was the leader. I think when I got to middle school my confidence just kinda went down, even in 5th grade.

I have no idea why. It wasnt like I was accomplishing much back in the day. I accomplish so much more now, and I'm always improving all parts of my life.

Nowadays I dont think Im all that confident. If I see people all the time, I dont even get to kno em, even if I see em all the time. I just wait until I meet em through friends or until I meet em outside of where I usually see em. ("hey dont u go to xxxxxx?"). I barely ever talk to people I don't know (cashiers, etc).

I'm sure this is a confidence issue. Cuz there are times I'm a lot more outgoing. This happens when Im happier than usual, but doesn't last long. It could be because of something that happened earlier in the day, or cuz im "in an altered state of mind" as the school people call it. Then I'll be more outgoing talking to people I don't know or don't know that well.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Your parents divorced?

Working out helps a lot, as if when you have a routine. Run, weights, etc..
 
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Nah thankfully my parents arent divorced. It's ok at home now. I used to not get along, but i think that was just a phase. It didnt help that my grandparents were passing away.

Ok I'll try that consistent working out, but in the summer I was biking at least a few miles tuesday thru friday (bmx bike too). It was mostly relaxing but sometimes we would go all out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Could it be that you're used to your ways so much, that you automatically fall back to what you do. Perhaps the cure is to do what you think is right when you feel like you're not doing what you want.
 
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djSlvt said:
Could it be that you're used to your ways so much, that you automatically fall back to what you do. Perhaps the cure is to do what you think is right when you feel like you're not doing what you want.
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Hmm I do what I feel is right but I realize it might not be right later. I know I can't regret what already happened but I feel like I can fix mistakes for the next time. But I don't think it's a matter of "doing what I think is right."
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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