"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think Im ****ed up or something. I used to be confident leader of the pack all that. Man I was leading so much **** back in the day. I had a whole pack of **** and we beat people up and kicked it all that. I was the leader. I think when I got to middle school my confidence just kinda went down, even in 5th grade.

I have no idea why. It wasnt like I was accomplishing much back in the day. I accomplish so much more now, and I'm always improving all parts of my life.

Nowadays I dont think Im all that confident. If I see people all the time, I dont even get to kno em, even if I see em all the time. I just wait until I meet em through friends or until I meet em outside of where I usually see em. ("hey dont u go to xxxxxx?"). I barely ever talk to people I don't know (cashiers, etc).

I'm sure this is a confidence issue. Cuz there are times I'm a lot more outgoing. This happens when Im happier than usual, but doesn't last long. It could be because of something that happened earlier in the day, or cuz im "in an altered state of mind" as the school people call it. Then I'll be more outgoing talking to people I don't know or don't know that well.
 

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Your parents divorced?

Working out helps a lot, as if when you have a routine. Run, weights, etc..
 
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Nah thankfully my parents arent divorced. It's ok at home now. I used to not get along, but i think that was just a phase. It didnt help that my grandparents were passing away.

Ok I'll try that consistent working out, but in the summer I was biking at least a few miles tuesday thru friday (bmx bike too). It was mostly relaxing but sometimes we would go all out.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Could it be that you're used to your ways so much, that you automatically fall back to what you do. Perhaps the cure is to do what you think is right when you feel like you're not doing what you want.
 
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djSlvt said:
Could it be that you're used to your ways so much, that you automatically fall back to what you do. Perhaps the cure is to do what you think is right when you feel like you're not doing what you want.
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Hmm I do what I feel is right but I realize it might not be right later. I know I can't regret what already happened but I feel like I can fix mistakes for the next time. But I don't think it's a matter of "doing what I think is right."
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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