"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Compliments Me On My Hair

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When a woman compliments you on how nice your hair looks and goes on to explain that it looks better than most because most gray heads have differing colors and don't look as good as mine is this attraction or just a general being nice compliment?

Also, when you are talking with a lady and you both are looking into each others eyes and she then looks down to your chest while you are talking and keeps her eyes there until you are through talking what is going on with that if anything?

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Always assume it's attraction.
 
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Thanks for the replies men.

Joe not sure yet but I don't come across this lady often but will see her in a couple months. I should have been alert when the compliment came on my hair. And CaptainJ I agree I should always assume attraction for what do I have to loose but rejection or her phone number in which both I can handle.

Also, whats going on when your talking with a lady while having eye contact and she goes looking at your chest until your through talking? I had this happen with another lady but she was much younger.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've always found that the so-called "signs of interest" (dilated pupils, open body posture, etc.) are only true with SOME girls, and it's a waste of time trying to read into them. Sometimes, girls that dig you will purposely avoid you or act weird around you--it's just their own personal response to attraction.

The best thing to do? Assume she IS attracted to you. Even if it's not the case initially, this mindset often brings about a shift in her attitude towards you.
 
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Jeffst1980, I have found that to be true as well it's a jungle of communications going on and assuming attraction from the start is for sure the best way to prevent a good one getting away I just have to remember that and stop getting in my head looking for signs all the time.

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