"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Compliments Me On My Hair

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When a woman compliments you on how nice your hair looks and goes on to explain that it looks better than most because most gray heads have differing colors and don't look as good as mine is this attraction or just a general being nice compliment?

Also, when you are talking with a lady and you both are looking into each others eyes and she then looks down to your chest while you are talking and keeps her eyes there until you are through talking what is going on with that if anything?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Always assume it's attraction.
 
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Thanks for the replies men.

Joe not sure yet but I don't come across this lady often but will see her in a couple months. I should have been alert when the compliment came on my hair. And CaptainJ I agree I should always assume attraction for what do I have to loose but rejection or her phone number in which both I can handle.

Also, whats going on when your talking with a lady while having eye contact and she goes looking at your chest until your through talking? I had this happen with another lady but she was much younger.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've always found that the so-called "signs of interest" (dilated pupils, open body posture, etc.) are only true with SOME girls, and it's a waste of time trying to read into them. Sometimes, girls that dig you will purposely avoid you or act weird around you--it's just their own personal response to attraction.

The best thing to do? Assume she IS attracted to you. Even if it's not the case initially, this mindset often brings about a shift in her attitude towards you.
 
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Jeffst1980, I have found that to be true as well it's a jungle of communications going on and assuming attraction from the start is for sure the best way to prevent a good one getting away I just have to remember that and stop getting in my head looking for signs all the time.

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