"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Complimenting your Bro's HO

Life-Trainee

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Is it out of line to compliment your friend's GF, in front of him? I did that and said something along the lines of "You look sexy [or attractive, i don't remember]". The girl told me afterwards that it was an inappropriate comment. Yet that was the first thing I thought of saying. I suspect that she's not used to me talking like that because she used to know me from times I was AFC. Am I so deep in the friendzone that I'm finding metaphorical tampons? I'm not really going after her at all. Just thought she looked attractive when I said that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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quest

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did you have her pinned up against the wall while you were alone and whispered it in her ear.

if not, i don't think you did anything wrong. i'm pretty sure that once or twice i've told friends girlfriends they look hot, but i'm not sure to be honest.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
I told her that at the new year's party.
lol, then tell her to lighten up. That's ridiculous, you're at a party having a good time. Things like that should flow freely in those kinds of moods. You did nothing wrong. She's over reacting.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Paintballguy

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You could of been doing worse things like banging her.... I dunno whats wrong with telling your friend's girl that she is hot.
 

sfalexi

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I see nothing wrong with it. She did, so don't do it to her again. But telling a girl she looks nice at a party and getting told it was inappropriate? Sounds like a bit of an odd chick . . .
 
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