"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Complete lack of energy on phone calls/real life?

isoman2kx

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Just recently, I got off the phone with a chick where 20 mins was perhaps the worst phone call I've done in a while. We played the question game again, but she didn't respond with anything but one-liners almost to some questions that weren't exactly those you respond with 5 words with. She even asked me at one point what my favorite tv show was?

The deal is, this happened on a date last night too with another chick, I couldn't really get my energy up enough and maybe that's what that date seemed like it lacked fun too, just like my phone call (the call and the date are two separate chicks though).

What's the deal with me here? What can I do to get my energy level up with chicks to the point where they won't respond with one line answers. In turn, how can I get my energy level up to the point where I don't seem like I'm bored to death on every question?

-iso
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alphamale1821

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dates shouldn't be a phucking interview process it's not all about questions. Tell stories or make comments about things you observe. Use your surrounding to your advantage. As for getting your energy up i don't eat more food, get more sleep. Tell yourself that if i have more energy then i will enjoy myself more.
 

Obsidian

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and work out maybe twice a week if you don't already. try to do some push-ups and crunches about every day in your spare time

And don't talk on phones for more than a few minutes at a time. In doing so, you're acting like a woman.
 

isoman2kx

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Obsidian said:
and work out maybe twice a week if you don't already. try to do some push-ups and crunches about every day in your spare time

And don't talk on phones for more than a few minutes at a time. In doing so, you're acting like a woman.
does going to the gym or just working out really help a ton?

because i used to go every day months back and it sorta helped me. nothing over the top though.

maybe there's more strenuous activities that make ya forget about things?
 

Obsidian

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i'm not a fitness expert, but I think you can maximize your utility from going if you just go 2-3 times a week and work out hard for maybe a little over half an hour (that's what I try to do). If you want to become the next Gov. Arnold, maybe you can go every day, but I don't think it's necessary.

on the days that i don't go to the gym, tho, i usually do about 70 pushups (2 x 35) and about 180 crunches (2 x 90), and sometimes I run a mile
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Maybe before you go out on a date, etc, listen to some music that gets you in the right mindset. If all you are getting is one liners, tell them: "What's the deal with all the one liners? I feel like you are holding something back?" Whatever the problem, make sure they know its their problem and not yours.
 
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