"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Complete lack of energy on phone calls/real life?

isoman2kx

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Just recently, I got off the phone with a chick where 20 mins was perhaps the worst phone call I've done in a while. We played the question game again, but she didn't respond with anything but one-liners almost to some questions that weren't exactly those you respond with 5 words with. She even asked me at one point what my favorite tv show was?

The deal is, this happened on a date last night too with another chick, I couldn't really get my energy up enough and maybe that's what that date seemed like it lacked fun too, just like my phone call (the call and the date are two separate chicks though).

What's the deal with me here? What can I do to get my energy level up with chicks to the point where they won't respond with one line answers. In turn, how can I get my energy level up to the point where I don't seem like I'm bored to death on every question?

-iso
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alphamale1821

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dates shouldn't be a phucking interview process it's not all about questions. Tell stories or make comments about things you observe. Use your surrounding to your advantage. As for getting your energy up i don't eat more food, get more sleep. Tell yourself that if i have more energy then i will enjoy myself more.
 

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and work out maybe twice a week if you don't already. try to do some push-ups and crunches about every day in your spare time

And don't talk on phones for more than a few minutes at a time. In doing so, you're acting like a woman.
 

isoman2kx

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Obsidian said:
and work out maybe twice a week if you don't already. try to do some push-ups and crunches about every day in your spare time

And don't talk on phones for more than a few minutes at a time. In doing so, you're acting like a woman.
does going to the gym or just working out really help a ton?

because i used to go every day months back and it sorta helped me. nothing over the top though.

maybe there's more strenuous activities that make ya forget about things?
 

Obsidian

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i'm not a fitness expert, but I think you can maximize your utility from going if you just go 2-3 times a week and work out hard for maybe a little over half an hour (that's what I try to do). If you want to become the next Gov. Arnold, maybe you can go every day, but I don't think it's necessary.

on the days that i don't go to the gym, tho, i usually do about 70 pushups (2 x 35) and about 180 crunches (2 x 90), and sometimes I run a mile
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maybe before you go out on a date, etc, listen to some music that gets you in the right mindset. If all you are getting is one liners, tell them: "What's the deal with all the one liners? I feel like you are holding something back?" Whatever the problem, make sure they know its their problem and not yours.
 
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