"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sucks.

I got classes with a few pretty girls, but have no personality or act rude around me. The very second class is over everyone bolts for the door, get in their cars, and go home. Small talk is not my strong point, I'd say stuff related to the class, ask questions when I already knew the answer, and try to set things up. It either goes to not giving out their numbers, too busy, etc.

I checked the college clubs, but since it's such a small ass school, nothing is happening or has clubs that I would NEVER be interested in.

Bottom line, it's not an option to me anymore. I have somewhat better luck in clubs (for those who have been following my posts) but still nothing really comes out of it.

It's gotten bad where I had to call up escorts and massage parlors, ugh. I don't have a problem talking to them and getting a number on the first encounter. But I seem to fall apart after that, no returned calls or even picked up calls.

Any advice from you guys?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It sounds like you are living in a situation in which mediocrity is tolerated and therefore pervasive. Your best bet is to move. Move to an entirely new town. This does involve some risk, and there is the possibility that you will wind up back where you started (at least temporarily) but it will fuel your drive to move away again.

Once you get a taste of the good life, you will never want to return to the life situation of mediocrity you seem to find yourself in at the moment.
 
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You're probably right, however I am living with my parents and they have my life tightly secure. Such that, if I don't let them know where I will be, I get a call asking if I'm safe. I know they mean well, but I'm an adult.

Until I graduate, I don't see myself having freedom to move.

P.S. I'm also terrible at getting an escort, FML
 
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