Vincent Freeman
Don Juan
A buddy of mine asked me this the other day, but I didn't know what to say. In a LDR relationship, how often should you talk to your gf?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Communication in a LDR
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
LDR's don't work.
pure and simple.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
There's no such thing as an LDR, one or both of you will eventually meet someone else. Don't subscribe to this romanticized mythology. There are of course LDBCs - long distance booty calls.
True words.
The basis of a relationship is the concept that you spend time together. Tough to do from a distance.
Tell your buddy that he should only talk to her during that brief moment when his last chick is jumping out the window and the next one is waiting at the front door.
The Anti Dr Phil
Don Juan
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LDR's means both parties are single.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
LDR = Let's Dilute Reality.
And this is from a guy who has a woman in Arizona writing him regularly. To tell the truth, I forget that she exists until I an email from her.
And this is from a guy who has a woman in Arizona writing him regularly. To tell the truth, I forget that she exists until I an email from her.