Vincent Freeman
Don Juan
A buddy of mine asked me this the other day, but I didn't know what to say. In a LDR relationship, how often should you talk to your gf?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Communication in a LDR
- Thread starter Vincent Freeman
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
LDR's don't work.
pure and simple.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
There's no such thing as an LDR, one or both of you will eventually meet someone else. Don't subscribe to this romanticized mythology. There are of course LDBCs - long distance booty calls.
True words.
The basis of a relationship is the concept that you spend time together. Tough to do from a distance.
Tell your buddy that he should only talk to her during that brief moment when his last chick is jumping out the window and the next one is waiting at the front door.
The Anti Dr Phil
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LDR's means both parties are single.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
LDR = Let's Dilute Reality.
And this is from a guy who has a woman in Arizona writing him regularly. To tell the truth, I forget that she exists until I an email from her.
And this is from a guy who has a woman in Arizona writing him regularly. To tell the truth, I forget that she exists until I an email from her.