Vincent Freeman
Don Juan
A buddy of mine asked me this the other day, but I didn't know what to say. In a LDR relationship, how often should you talk to your gf?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Communication in a LDR
- Thread starter Vincent Freeman
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
LDR's don't work.
pure and simple.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
There's no such thing as an LDR, one or both of you will eventually meet someone else. Don't subscribe to this romanticized mythology. There are of course LDBCs - long distance booty calls.
True words.
The basis of a relationship is the concept that you spend time together. Tough to do from a distance.
Tell your buddy that he should only talk to her during that brief moment when his last chick is jumping out the window and the next one is waiting at the front door.
The Anti Dr Phil
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LDR's means both parties are single.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
LDR = Let's Dilute Reality.
And this is from a guy who has a woman in Arizona writing him regularly. To tell the truth, I forget that she exists until I an email from her.
And this is from a guy who has a woman in Arizona writing him regularly. To tell the truth, I forget that she exists until I an email from her.