"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Communication during vacation

BJP1991

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Hey Everybody,

Been seeing a girl for almost a month now, 4 total dates, sex on 3 of them.

After our most recent date she left for a week vacation out of state visiting family. She already talked about calling me and seeing me when she gets back sometime next week.

In situations like this, do you try to get any text communication going when either you or the other is on a vacation, and you already have the conception that you’ll be talking and seeing one another once you/she returns?

Overall, we don’t text too much and actually have done more calling than texting in the last month of going out.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BJP1991

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Perfect opportunity for you to show her your not needy. Let her vacation. If she texts then keep replies light. Let her send some cool pictures and enjoy the time away from her. At 4 months and this is anxiety for you tells me you should work on your inner state of mind.

Thanks for the input - this is pretty much what I’m doing anyways, was just more curious how others roll with situations like this. I prefer to let women come to me anyways, and so far everything has gone well with that in the past and in this particular instance. Just trying to learn and get better is all. No anxiety about it whatsoever - I actually went on a killer date last night with an entirely new girl, so I’m still dating other women. I’m honestly just curious and open to learning more.

The girl in question is 4 dates in one month, not 4 months.
 

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You should do what you want. That is having a solid frame.

The only thing that would be detrimental to this would be blowing her phone up. If you want some communication, its perfectly ok. Just let her enjoy her vacation without being glued to her phone responding to your endless texts.
 
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