Luke Skywalker
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Today's lesson that I've learned for effective stigma-management is to make an inventory of all stigmas that you have and reframe them into something positive. It's a bit of game of being honest about a situation, but yet portraying it as a positive rather than a negative.
For example, I talked to a girl on the phone, and told her I'm still in a slump I had when I talked to her earlier, while she's doing well. Here the stall warning alert going on of the plane falling out of the sky. So, I DLVed big time. I don't understand why I did that.
However, if you look at any given situation, there is always something positive about it -- or seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty, and you have to communicate the positive, otherwise people wonder what's wrong with you and they stay away from you.
Therefore, common sence dictates that you have to have the best spins on all the negatives on your life when people ask you common questions, such as HOW IS YOUR BUSINESS GOING, whatever questions they are asking.
The funny thing is, most of the time people really don't care and are just fluffing to keep a conversation - you just need a connection, which does not mean that you to bare you whole soul, and tell the truth and nothing but the truth, to get one -- and if you do say something bad they are may empathise for the moment or even for a short time, then they run away from you.
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I'm going to do a personal stigma inventory and write a spin on how I'm going to make a positive spin on it on questions that may likely come up on a living situation:
- Living with parents and being 32 y/o -- Could be taking care of them as they are
seniors and/or saving money for something
I want/need to do.
- Business on a slump, no deals -- Trying out a new program offered by the
office that I would not have tried if
everything was going well. Have a few
things on the go. Things are looking up.
Taking it easy right as I can afford to.
- No life or friends -- Enjoy spending time with myself in
creative activities and if I have the
time I may touch base with people I
know.
For example, I talked to a girl on the phone, and told her I'm still in a slump I had when I talked to her earlier, while she's doing well. Here the stall warning alert going on of the plane falling out of the sky. So, I DLVed big time. I don't understand why I did that.
However, if you look at any given situation, there is always something positive about it -- or seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty, and you have to communicate the positive, otherwise people wonder what's wrong with you and they stay away from you.
Therefore, common sence dictates that you have to have the best spins on all the negatives on your life when people ask you common questions, such as HOW IS YOUR BUSINESS GOING, whatever questions they are asking.
The funny thing is, most of the time people really don't care and are just fluffing to keep a conversation - you just need a connection, which does not mean that you to bare you whole soul, and tell the truth and nothing but the truth, to get one -- and if you do say something bad they are may empathise for the moment or even for a short time, then they run away from you.
*************
I'm going to do a personal stigma inventory and write a spin on how I'm going to make a positive spin on it on questions that may likely come up on a living situation:
- Living with parents and being 32 y/o -- Could be taking care of them as they are
seniors and/or saving money for something
I want/need to do.
- Business on a slump, no deals -- Trying out a new program offered by the
office that I would not have tried if
everything was going well. Have a few
things on the go. Things are looking up.
Taking it easy right as I can afford to.
- No life or friends -- Enjoy spending time with myself in
creative activities and if I have the
time I may touch base with people I
know.