cordoncordon
Master Don Juan
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Ya know relooking at your pics. Is this one of your jokes?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You're obviously very proud of your girlfriends appearance. It's a good thing, but you seem to post her picture all over this board. I'm not sure if she'd be so happy about that.cordoncordon said:Hey comic, you look and seem like a nice guy. Friendly, outgoing......nice. Kinda nerdy in how you dress, but nice. I think you could realllllllly improve your look if you:
worked out-gained at least 30 pounds
grew your hair out-a fauxhawk would be cool
improved your clothing/dress
Now, don't take this as mean ok? I mean you put the pics up so you obviously want to be judged by them. Your gf. Ummmm. I'm sure she is nice and giving to you. Would have to be right? But.....wow, she just is not good looking dude. Maybe a 3. At best. You are definitely better looking then her, and with the right improvements, could be wayy better looking. On the other hand, she really does look like a guy dressed up as a woman. Weird. That being said, you obviously both really care for each other by how you look at each other, and with as much as you have pics of her on your my space, you are obviously proud to be with her, and that means something.
But if you were putting up her pics because you wanted validation here, its not gonna happen.
Here's a pic of my gf. I think she's great, but I would still only give her an 8 or so being realistic, so compare that to the girl you think is an 8.........
Girl in the green dress.
http://img135.imageshack.us/img135/6734/pamtj8.jpg
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ken785 said:Nitpicking my a$s...that thing is half man half woman, ALL BEAST!!
If you post this pic one more damn time I am going to kick your @ss, son!cordoncordon said:Here's a pic of my gf. I think she's great, but I would still only give her an 8 or so being realistic, so compare that to the girl you think is an 8.........
Girl in the green dress.
http://img135.imageshack.us/img135/6734/pamtj8.jpg
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
i think were just poking fun...lighten up man. I think what youre talking about is the Mature Man forum..belividere said:For fvcks sake this thread has made me realize how pathetic this site really is. Comic - absolutely nothing to do with your pics (I didn't even look at them to be honest) the responses by a bunch of guys are fvcking pathetic.
Unless you are willing to put pics up of the girls you actually have been with (and by been with I mean not just jerked off to on the internet) then dont talk **** about guys who will.
As much as I hate it when people ask for new forums on this site, I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest that ss puts up a members only section where guys who dont wont to be ridiculed by virgins can actually share useful advice. Maybe then this site can progress past the high schoolers who want to touch their first boob to a forum where guys who get laid don't have to be ridiculed by those that dont.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ugh huh...iqqi said:Comic seems to truly love his girl, and that is better than any number scale. Besides, true beauty is within. I wouldn't be surprised if CR came back here and told us all that his girl is considered a catch where he lives, because everyone is blinded by her inner beauty!
ugh huh...Maxtro said:While I don't think she is the most attractive woman in the world, she is still a lot better than what the vast majority of guys here have, which is nothing.
For all we know she could be a really great person. There are tons of stuff that we don't know about her. I'm sure comic_relief is into her because of who she is, not just how she looks.
three things:Maxtro said:While I don't think she is the most attractive woman in the world, she is still a lot better than what the vast majority of guys here have, which is nothing.
For all we know she could be a really great person. There are tons of stuff that we don't know about her. I'm sure comic_relief is into her because of who she is, not just how she looks.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.