timmylivingalie
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How you guys go about comforting a chic when shes had a tramatic experience such as a loss of family member or something like that without coming across as a wuss.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Comforting your girlfriend without being a wuss
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
timmylivingalie
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Thanks man I had this problem with a chic once she seemed real upset about her kid and wanted me to comfort her. Didnt know if she was testing me or was really in need. Just looking for a way to act in this situation so if it is a test I will pass and if it is real I can provide what she needs at the time.Stryker said: