slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Common places, such as the grocery store, book store, coffee shop and such, does cold approching in these places during the day get you any where?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Cold approching in the day in common places, does it work?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
the entire world is the playing field. Any place with women is a possible opportunity
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Yo Troops,
ACTUALLY, I would say that the vast majority of the women I meet are from COLD APPROACHES / DIRECT GAME.
And 8 out of the last 10 women that I have successfully approached this past year have ALL been either IN the grocery store, OR leaving OUT of the grocery store.
I know it always sounds like a cliche, but believe it or not, it's really NOT that unusual or difficult when you're comfortable with approaching them there-----AND you have that "take no prisoners" mindset when you're doing it.
In fact, there are times when I go out to certain venues (see----GROCERY STORES, MALLS, SPORTING EVENTS, FESTIVALS, etc.), when the ONLY reason I am there IS to meet women.
Think of it like a MILITARY OPERATION:
What you're doing while you're walking around the store is REALLY "recon". And the basket that you're pushing or carrying is REALLY your cover, or your CAMOFLAUGE. Even as you talk on your cellphone while you peruse items on the same aisle as "your target", what you're really doing is leading "your enemy" into having a false sense of security. Many have NO idea that you've been checking them out THOROUGHLY until you smile and make eye contact. And "when" and "if" they RETURN your smile and/or make eye contact, THAT'S when you know it's time to "pull the trigger".
THIS type of manuever works for me MORE than you could imagine. I suggest that those who HAVEN'T seriously considered targeting women in venues like these, please consider it. The WORST thing that will happen is that you leave the store WITHOUT having picked up THAT particular babe as "an item".
The mindset that you have AT THE TIME that these scenarios play out is EVERYTHING, though.
You see, sometimes if you go to the grocery store JUST thinking about "eating up", all you'll see is food.
BUT, if you go to the grocery store thinking about "picking up", you might just find that all you'll see IS women.
SHOP ON!
ACTUALLY, I would say that the vast majority of the women I meet are from COLD APPROACHES / DIRECT GAME.
And 8 out of the last 10 women that I have successfully approached this past year have ALL been either IN the grocery store, OR leaving OUT of the grocery store.
I know it always sounds like a cliche, but believe it or not, it's really NOT that unusual or difficult when you're comfortable with approaching them there-----AND you have that "take no prisoners" mindset when you're doing it.
In fact, there are times when I go out to certain venues (see----GROCERY STORES, MALLS, SPORTING EVENTS, FESTIVALS, etc.), when the ONLY reason I am there IS to meet women.
Think of it like a MILITARY OPERATION:
What you're doing while you're walking around the store is REALLY "recon". And the basket that you're pushing or carrying is REALLY your cover, or your CAMOFLAUGE. Even as you talk on your cellphone while you peruse items on the same aisle as "your target", what you're really doing is leading "your enemy" into having a false sense of security. Many have NO idea that you've been checking them out THOROUGHLY until you smile and make eye contact. And "when" and "if" they RETURN your smile and/or make eye contact, THAT'S when you know it's time to "pull the trigger".
THIS type of manuever works for me MORE than you could imagine. I suggest that those who HAVEN'T seriously considered targeting women in venues like these, please consider it. The WORST thing that will happen is that you leave the store WITHOUT having picked up THAT particular babe as "an item".
The mindset that you have AT THE TIME that these scenarios play out is EVERYTHING, though.
You see, sometimes if you go to the grocery store JUST thinking about "eating up", all you'll see is food.
BUT, if you go to the grocery store thinking about "picking up", you might just find that all you'll see IS women.
SHOP ON!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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slitherjef said:
cold approaching only works for people with a very pleasant appearance (werent you really fat when you posted a pic of yourself on here?)
I would say NO. Cold approaching in the day is at the bottom of my list of gaming woman. Its just hard to open them. To me it is on the bottom of my list Clubs, bars, Friends, parites, internet the are better places to meet woman.
Most of my daytime approaches have resulted in me getting the # and than the girl not coming thru for the date. Just because it does not work for me it may work for you.
Most of my daytime approaches have resulted in me getting the # and than the girl not coming thru for the date. Just because it does not work for me it may work for you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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there is nothing that a girl wants more than to be cold approached by a charming good looking guy whos got a good front along with a better clout, one who will show an honest appreciation for the lady that he is approaching
and there is nothing that a girl wants LESS than to be cold approached by some geek who is running pick up artist games and trying to overcome approach anxiety - girls dont like to be little test subject for your recovering AFC azzes
and there is nothing that a girl wants LESS than to be cold approached by some geek who is running pick up artist games and trying to overcome approach anxiety - girls dont like to be little test subject for your recovering AFC azzes
slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Gee thanks.AFC Savior said:
For a bit there I did not think I was THAT fat, but I guess in your eyes I am a f*cking whale
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lol
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
I've cold approached many girls and got many numbers, and got dates. Yeah your right cold approaching should most definitely not be done:moon: :kick:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
LMAO Keyboard jockie, your obviously some guy who has no experience with women, so you come here to hate and troll. With a pessimistic attitude like yours it's no wonder you don't cold approach. Now i'm going to be humble and hopefully you'll keep your ignorant comments to yourself.joey2times said:
Rashad
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lol dj dan....he reminded me of that picture on the wall in ghostbusters II!
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
LMAO some skinny punkass who lives out his fantsies ROFL ***** i'm a model. Now as i stated i don't like to brag but i guess i'll have to show your ass pics. Heres my myspace Look at every picture and check out my profile and lets see if you are still talking shiit.joey2times said:
http://home.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user
Kev07
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I met my girl walking down a hill on my way to class, go figure.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.