slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Common places, such as the grocery store, book store, coffee shop and such, does cold approching in these places during the day get you any where?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Cold approching in the day in common places, does it work?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
the entire world is the playing field. Any place with women is a possible opportunity
Victory Unlimited
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Yo Troops,
ACTUALLY, I would say that the vast majority of the women I meet are from COLD APPROACHES / DIRECT GAME.
And 8 out of the last 10 women that I have successfully approached this past year have ALL been either IN the grocery store, OR leaving OUT of the grocery store.
I know it always sounds like a cliche, but believe it or not, it's really NOT that unusual or difficult when you're comfortable with approaching them there-----AND you have that "take no prisoners" mindset when you're doing it.
In fact, there are times when I go out to certain venues (see----GROCERY STORES, MALLS, SPORTING EVENTS, FESTIVALS, etc.), when the ONLY reason I am there IS to meet women.
Think of it like a MILITARY OPERATION:
What you're doing while you're walking around the store is REALLY "recon". And the basket that you're pushing or carrying is REALLY your cover, or your CAMOFLAUGE. Even as you talk on your cellphone while you peruse items on the same aisle as "your target", what you're really doing is leading "your enemy" into having a false sense of security. Many have NO idea that you've been checking them out THOROUGHLY until you smile and make eye contact. And "when" and "if" they RETURN your smile and/or make eye contact, THAT'S when you know it's time to "pull the trigger".
THIS type of manuever works for me MORE than you could imagine. I suggest that those who HAVEN'T seriously considered targeting women in venues like these, please consider it. The WORST thing that will happen is that you leave the store WITHOUT having picked up THAT particular babe as "an item".
The mindset that you have AT THE TIME that these scenarios play out is EVERYTHING, though.
You see, sometimes if you go to the grocery store JUST thinking about "eating up", all you'll see is food.
BUT, if you go to the grocery store thinking about "picking up", you might just find that all you'll see IS women.
SHOP ON!
ACTUALLY, I would say that the vast majority of the women I meet are from COLD APPROACHES / DIRECT GAME.
And 8 out of the last 10 women that I have successfully approached this past year have ALL been either IN the grocery store, OR leaving OUT of the grocery store.
I know it always sounds like a cliche, but believe it or not, it's really NOT that unusual or difficult when you're comfortable with approaching them there-----AND you have that "take no prisoners" mindset when you're doing it.
In fact, there are times when I go out to certain venues (see----GROCERY STORES, MALLS, SPORTING EVENTS, FESTIVALS, etc.), when the ONLY reason I am there IS to meet women.
Think of it like a MILITARY OPERATION:
What you're doing while you're walking around the store is REALLY "recon". And the basket that you're pushing or carrying is REALLY your cover, or your CAMOFLAUGE. Even as you talk on your cellphone while you peruse items on the same aisle as "your target", what you're really doing is leading "your enemy" into having a false sense of security. Many have NO idea that you've been checking them out THOROUGHLY until you smile and make eye contact. And "when" and "if" they RETURN your smile and/or make eye contact, THAT'S when you know it's time to "pull the trigger".
THIS type of manuever works for me MORE than you could imagine. I suggest that those who HAVEN'T seriously considered targeting women in venues like these, please consider it. The WORST thing that will happen is that you leave the store WITHOUT having picked up THAT particular babe as "an item".
The mindset that you have AT THE TIME that these scenarios play out is EVERYTHING, though.
You see, sometimes if you go to the grocery store JUST thinking about "eating up", all you'll see is food.
BUT, if you go to the grocery store thinking about "picking up", you might just find that all you'll see IS women.
SHOP ON!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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slitherjef said:
cold approaching only works for people with a very pleasant appearance (werent you really fat when you posted a pic of yourself on here?)
I would say NO. Cold approaching in the day is at the bottom of my list of gaming woman. Its just hard to open them. To me it is on the bottom of my list Clubs, bars, Friends, parites, internet the are better places to meet woman.
Most of my daytime approaches have resulted in me getting the # and than the girl not coming thru for the date. Just because it does not work for me it may work for you.
Most of my daytime approaches have resulted in me getting the # and than the girl not coming thru for the date. Just because it does not work for me it may work for you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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there is nothing that a girl wants more than to be cold approached by a charming good looking guy whos got a good front along with a better clout, one who will show an honest appreciation for the lady that he is approaching
and there is nothing that a girl wants LESS than to be cold approached by some geek who is running pick up artist games and trying to overcome approach anxiety - girls dont like to be little test subject for your recovering AFC azzes
and there is nothing that a girl wants LESS than to be cold approached by some geek who is running pick up artist games and trying to overcome approach anxiety - girls dont like to be little test subject for your recovering AFC azzes
slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Gee thanks.AFC Savior said:
For a bit there I did not think I was THAT fat, but I guess in your eyes I am a f*cking whale
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lol
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
I've cold approached many girls and got many numbers, and got dates. Yeah your right cold approaching should most definitely not be done:moon: :kick:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
LMAO Keyboard jockie, your obviously some guy who has no experience with women, so you come here to hate and troll. With a pessimistic attitude like yours it's no wonder you don't cold approach. Now i'm going to be humble and hopefully you'll keep your ignorant comments to yourself.joey2times said:
Rashad
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lol dj dan....he reminded me of that picture on the wall in ghostbusters II!
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
LMAO some skinny punkass who lives out his fantsies ROFL ***** i'm a model. Now as i stated i don't like to brag but i guess i'll have to show your ass pics. Heres my myspace Look at every picture and check out my profile and lets see if you are still talking shiit.joey2times said:
http://home.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user
Kev07
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I met my girl walking down a hill on my way to class, go figure.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.