slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Common places, such as the grocery store, book store, coffee shop and such, does cold approching in these places during the day get you any where?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"I wanna play, do you wanna play?"JDA70 said:So Victory Unlimited.
What do you actually say to them?
slitherjef said:Common places, such as the grocery store, book store, coffee shop and such, does cold approching in these places during the day get you any where?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Gee thanks.AFC Savior said:cold approaching only works for people with a very pleasant appearance (werent you really fat when you posted a pic of yourself on here?)
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LMAO Keyboard jockie, your obviously some guy who has no experience with women, so you come here to hate and troll. With a pessimistic attitude like yours it's no wonder you don't cold approach. Now i'm going to be humble and hopefully you'll keep your ignorant comments to yourself.joey2times said:Yeah, and your word and $5.50 will get me coffee at starbucks.
By the way, I ran the Boston Marathon backwards in 25 minutes..
A good idea for a reality show would be having these keyboard jockies have to back their shyt up in real life. Put them in a mall, have them cold approach, and see how many actually lead to a DATE.
I would venture to guess the success rate would be terrible.
LMAO some skinny punkass who lives out his fantsies ROFL ***** i'm a model. Now as i stated i don't like to brag but i guess i'll have to show your ass pics. Heres my myspace Look at every picture and check out my profile and lets see if you are still talking shiit.joey2times said:Troll because I point out that a certain tactic is a waste of time? Why don't you take a video camera with you and record your cold approaches? Show them to us and let us see what a big alpha male you are LOL
You won't because like the typical poster on here, you're some ugly, skinny punkass who lives out their fantasies by talking on dating forums like you know something. It goes back to showing pictures. Look at DJDan...big shyt talker but when he got called out to prove his stuff, he ran. And look at his picture, the dude looked like an effeminate Tom Cruise. Anybody who blows their horn that hard is blowing bullshyt.
There's your challenge.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.