"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Cold approaching number 1 requirement
- Thread starter Suspens
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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devilkingx2
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wouldn't that just make you really desperate and lead to intense thirst?Suspens said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I would cal that motivation rather than desperation. But yeah there is some paradox here with the no fap challenge.devilkingx2 said:
How about stop being an unstable ass? no need to rage like that. I was specifically talking about wanking.marmel75 said:
mrgoodstuff
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Not getting laid coupled with fapping produces even worse than that.marmel75 said:
If you can be cool with being in a temporary drought and be productive and on your chase, eventually you will get someone to part her legs for you.
If your fapping your reinforcing failure, in your psychology and body language, it really is not good for you...
I too noticed when I took away the ability to "fap" by not doing it, my brain had to find a way to get laid, and it does.
Once you get laid it's much easier to get laid some more. It turns on some things in your psyche and creates a cool calm confidence of someone who is sexual.
mrgoodstuff
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Agree 110%. It's the mindset. And many of us fapping encourages feelings of failure and lack of willing female sexual partners. It is not a successful mindset. The blown load, bleeding down motivation and impetus for obtaining the real thing.Espi said:
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This actually does have an effect. Last time I did for about a week or 10days, women really were paying me more attention. I don't know if it's a change in a man's behaviours, scent, manner or what; probably a combination. But I really did notice a difference.
I'm starting again. Day one.