"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cold approaching in London

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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skeeloo

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this cold approache i did on baker street station.

! hb8 reading reading a news paper about the bomb scare, i asked hey can i read when your done, chick says ok, i then say hey how many casualties has been noted on this bomb blast, we took it on from there, chick says she scared blahblah blah . after that she says thats her own paper and i owe her for reading it i told her ill repay her by taking her out sometime and i number closed.

nows a great time for cold approaches in the tube especially the recent bomb blasts can give you a good opener. i tried the same thing on my way back but failed lol.

i kinda find cold approaches easier than club approaches.
 

fivefingers

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Can you tellme exactly what you said and how you closed ?
Originally posted by skeeloo
this cold approache i did on baker street station.

! hb8 reading reading a news paper about the bomb scare, i asked hey can i read when your done, chick says ok, i then say hey how many casualties has been noted on this bomb blast, we took it on from there, chick says she scared blahblah blah . after that she says thats her own paper and i owe her for reading it i told her ill repay her by taking her out sometime and i number closed.

nows a great time for cold approaches in the tube especially the recent bomb blasts can give you a good opener. i tried the same thing on my way back but failed lol.

i kinda find cold approaches easier than club approaches.
 

englishcrap

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Learn to get comfortable with approaching strangers. At least 3-5 times a day approach a woman and ask for simple information. Such as directions, the time etc. If your in the train ask her if she has finished with her copy of the metro or newspaper. Look into her eyes and smile.

Once you are comfortable with doing this take it to the next level.
 
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