"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Cold Approaches?
- Thread starter TDH
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm seeing about 1 in 10, 1 in 15 is a good one. That's from the numbers I get, so I get 10-15 numbers and I get 1 good contact.
Matching up reasonably closely to Paul Janka's 11% rule - he sleeps with 11% of the girls who give him their number.
As far as numbers go, I probably do 5 approaches to get one number. I don't push very hard, though, I'll usually just sideswipe a comment and start a small conversation, and if I see interest in pursuing the conversation, I do. If I'm finding I have to ramble a bit, I just bail, which probably knocks out a chunk of people who I could get numbers from but just weren't breaking out of their comfort zones as easily as others.
As far as how to do it? I go for situational openers, I just spout out the first thing I think of. Still learning all that. Gets better/easier each time. Make a comment about their phone, I make a comment about them being anti-social and texting (easy one, but I bail a lot on this - but since it's easy, it works in situations where I can't think of something else). Seriously, just walking up to them, walking by them, saying something - you might get a few weird looks the first few times, but you'll quickly learn what boundaries you shouldn't shatter.
Should ask Demonpenz on that. He's pro with approaches.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.