Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Cold Approaches?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm seeing about 1 in 10, 1 in 15 is a good one. That's from the numbers I get, so I get 10-15 numbers and I get 1 good contact.
Matching up reasonably closely to Paul Janka's 11% rule - he sleeps with 11% of the girls who give him their number.
As far as numbers go, I probably do 5 approaches to get one number. I don't push very hard, though, I'll usually just sideswipe a comment and start a small conversation, and if I see interest in pursuing the conversation, I do. If I'm finding I have to ramble a bit, I just bail, which probably knocks out a chunk of people who I could get numbers from but just weren't breaking out of their comfort zones as easily as others.
As far as how to do it? I go for situational openers, I just spout out the first thing I think of. Still learning all that. Gets better/easier each time. Make a comment about their phone, I make a comment about them being anti-social and texting (easy one, but I bail a lot on this - but since it's easy, it works in situations where I can't think of something else). Seriously, just walking up to them, walking by them, saying something - you might get a few weird looks the first few times, but you'll quickly learn what boundaries you shouldn't shatter.
Should ask Demonpenz on that. He's pro with approaches.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.