"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Cold Approaches?
- Thread starter TDH
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm seeing about 1 in 10, 1 in 15 is a good one. That's from the numbers I get, so I get 10-15 numbers and I get 1 good contact.
Matching up reasonably closely to Paul Janka's 11% rule - he sleeps with 11% of the girls who give him their number.
As far as numbers go, I probably do 5 approaches to get one number. I don't push very hard, though, I'll usually just sideswipe a comment and start a small conversation, and if I see interest in pursuing the conversation, I do. If I'm finding I have to ramble a bit, I just bail, which probably knocks out a chunk of people who I could get numbers from but just weren't breaking out of their comfort zones as easily as others.
As far as how to do it? I go for situational openers, I just spout out the first thing I think of. Still learning all that. Gets better/easier each time. Make a comment about their phone, I make a comment about them being anti-social and texting (easy one, but I bail a lot on this - but since it's easy, it works in situations where I can't think of something else). Seriously, just walking up to them, walking by them, saying something - you might get a few weird looks the first few times, but you'll quickly learn what boundaries you shouldn't shatter.
Should ask Demonpenz on that. He's pro with approaches.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.