“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Cold Approaches don't work.
- Thread starter Glycerine2
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
tigre
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pimpfromdayone
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1.) the girl must be completely new to you, no friends knowing her, or knowing you, nothing.
2.) it can't be in a place where you might "accidentally" run into her, or that is meant for approaching, like a party or club.... come on, those are the easiest placest on earth to pick them up, with the easiest women too. You can't have already been sitting next to her like in a class or something either. Usually it is in an everyday setting where an approach is less common.
If you break either of these two "rules," it is not a cold approach, it is merely talking to someone you already had easy access to.
The college campus, the mall, a store, at sporting events, and well, I suppose a club too if you approached a girl there, would all qualify as cold approaches.
And as to the point about cold approaches having less success rate, that is absolutely true, mainly because most guys can't do it well, and then because some women are less receptive to them. If you do it right and build rapport so she doesn't think you're a weirdo, tease her so she doesn't think you're some niceguy AFC like everyone else, and then have the confidence to get the #, you should be fine, but like anything in the world of women, there is a fine balance.
And oh yeah, most people never really try to make new friends, they just build off people they already knew or meet new people with similar interests that they see quite often (like in sports or something). The social skills of the average person are overrated, esp. by this board, and leave MUCH to be desired. Stop acting like *most* guys in this world know what the hel-l they're doing or have balls of steel... they don't. Most guys DON'T meet girls doing cold approaches. Most guys meet women through their social circle somehow, through social settings, like parties/clubs, or meet women they have EASY access to in classes, sports, or some other interest they have in common.
Marlimus
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Cold approaches work. I know because they work for me. I prefer to meet girls this way, because its a rush. There's no safety net.
You can chat with a girl for less than 3 minutes, but if you have GAME she will give you her phone number, or even ask for yours.
My advice, Glycerine2, is that you don't say something doesn't work simply because it doesn't work for you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
diplomatic_lies
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As for the success rate...cold approaches, on average, will get you more numbers/dates than waiting 3 months for a "special event where you can make warm approaches".
Glycerine - If you still don't believe me, send me a plane ticket to your city and a "How to speak American" handbook and I'll prove otherwise
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I'd never talked to anyone there before other than my wingman. I found out about the parties from dudes online who I'd never met. The bars, again, mostly froma dvice I got offline before I knew I'd be in a strange city. Trust me, those can all be cold approaches. See my field report I'm typing now.