"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Cold Approaches don't work.
- Thread starter Glycerine2
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
tigre
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pimpfromdayone
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1.) the girl must be completely new to you, no friends knowing her, or knowing you, nothing.
2.) it can't be in a place where you might "accidentally" run into her, or that is meant for approaching, like a party or club.... come on, those are the easiest placest on earth to pick them up, with the easiest women too. You can't have already been sitting next to her like in a class or something either. Usually it is in an everyday setting where an approach is less common.
If you break either of these two "rules," it is not a cold approach, it is merely talking to someone you already had easy access to.
The college campus, the mall, a store, at sporting events, and well, I suppose a club too if you approached a girl there, would all qualify as cold approaches.
And as to the point about cold approaches having less success rate, that is absolutely true, mainly because most guys can't do it well, and then because some women are less receptive to them. If you do it right and build rapport so she doesn't think you're a weirdo, tease her so she doesn't think you're some niceguy AFC like everyone else, and then have the confidence to get the #, you should be fine, but like anything in the world of women, there is a fine balance.
And oh yeah, most people never really try to make new friends, they just build off people they already knew or meet new people with similar interests that they see quite often (like in sports or something). The social skills of the average person are overrated, esp. by this board, and leave MUCH to be desired. Stop acting like *most* guys in this world know what the hel-l they're doing or have balls of steel... they don't. Most guys DON'T meet girls doing cold approaches. Most guys meet women through their social circle somehow, through social settings, like parties/clubs, or meet women they have EASY access to in classes, sports, or some other interest they have in common.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
Cold approaches work. I know because they work for me. I prefer to meet girls this way, because its a rush. There's no safety net.
You can chat with a girl for less than 3 minutes, but if you have GAME she will give you her phone number, or even ask for yours.
My advice, Glycerine2, is that you don't say something doesn't work simply because it doesn't work for you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
diplomatic_lies
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As for the success rate...cold approaches, on average, will get you more numbers/dates than waiting 3 months for a "special event where you can make warm approaches".
Glycerine - If you still don't believe me, send me a plane ticket to your city and a "How to speak American" handbook and I'll prove otherwise
everywomanshero
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I'd never talked to anyone there before other than my wingman. I found out about the parties from dudes online who I'd never met. The bars, again, mostly froma dvice I got offline before I knew I'd be in a strange city. Trust me, those can all be cold approaches. See my field report I'm typing now.