a question kind of on a tangent to this: what is the DEFINITION of a cold approach. If a cold approach is independant of the venue, approaching ANY chick you don't know is a cold approach, whether it be at college, the mall or the club. That is, 90-95% of sets are cold approaches. or is the scope a little more narrowly defined?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Cold approaches do not work.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Heyjose25points
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Good work getting experience. So what if they got two numbers, thats better than none. Like everyone else has been telling you, Experience > Reading Posts.
That's my understanding of the definition of a cold approach: It's independent of venue, she doesn't know you and you don't know her and what makes it a cold approach is there's no mutual friend introducing you..the last part is key.Originally posted by lebRambo
a question kind of on a tangent to this: what is the DEFINITION of a cold approach. If a cold approach is independant of the venue, approaching ANY chick you don't know is a cold approach, whether it be at college, the mall or the club. That is, 90-95% of sets are cold approaches. or is the scope a little more narrowly defined?
big dizzle
Don Juan
Check out my field report from the 4ht of July. I did 6 cold approaches and received 3 #s.
AC I resent that. I play halo with my friends all the time and still get plenty of azz.
Dizz
AC I resent that. I play halo with my friends all the time and still get plenty of azz.
Dizz
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
No one gonna mention that this thread was started by someone who was just watching someone else approach.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DrBeard
Banned
grab yo balls + do **** + funny wid em!
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Cold approaches do work. Be persistent as been said before its a numbers game. Dont go out looking to pull, go out looking to have fun. My intention is to make 10 girls smile tonight or somthing like that.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
I've gotten numbers before with cold approaches so obviously they can work. It's a matter of having the right attitude.
h2o
Banned
seems like there's a "cold approaches don't work" thread once every one or two months...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I think it's a bit more frequent.Originally posted by h2o
seems like there's a "cold approaches don't work" thread once every one or two months...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheCaptain21
Don Juan
they work, but i think how u look plays a big part in it, i cant' picture a scummy looking ugly dude walk up to a girl and throw some line like "wanna ****" or whatever and actually succeed, if you look your best and go up to every single one that your interested in one of them is bound to be that horny little skeez..........