a question kind of on a tangent to this: what is the DEFINITION of a cold approach. If a cold approach is independant of the venue, approaching ANY chick you don't know is a cold approach, whether it be at college, the mall or the club. That is, 90-95% of sets are cold approaches. or is the scope a little more narrowly defined?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Cold approaches do not work.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Heyjose25points
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Good work getting experience. So what if they got two numbers, thats better than none. Like everyone else has been telling you, Experience > Reading Posts.
That's my understanding of the definition of a cold approach: It's independent of venue, she doesn't know you and you don't know her and what makes it a cold approach is there's no mutual friend introducing you..the last part is key.Originally posted by lebRambo
a question kind of on a tangent to this: what is the DEFINITION of a cold approach. If a cold approach is independant of the venue, approaching ANY chick you don't know is a cold approach, whether it be at college, the mall or the club. That is, 90-95% of sets are cold approaches. or is the scope a little more narrowly defined?
big dizzle
Don Juan
Check out my field report from the 4ht of July. I did 6 cold approaches and received 3 #s.
AC I resent that. I play halo with my friends all the time and still get plenty of azz.
Dizz
AC I resent that. I play halo with my friends all the time and still get plenty of azz.
Dizz
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
No one gonna mention that this thread was started by someone who was just watching someone else approach.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
DrBeard
Banned
grab yo balls + do **** + funny wid em!
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Cold approaches do work. Be persistent as been said before its a numbers game. Dont go out looking to pull, go out looking to have fun. My intention is to make 10 girls smile tonight or somthing like that.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
I've gotten numbers before with cold approaches so obviously they can work. It's a matter of having the right attitude.
h2o
Banned
seems like there's a "cold approaches don't work" thread once every one or two months...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I think it's a bit more frequent.Originally posted by h2o
seems like there's a "cold approaches don't work" thread once every one or two months...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheCaptain21
Don Juan
they work, but i think how u look plays a big part in it, i cant' picture a scummy looking ugly dude walk up to a girl and throw some line like "wanna ****" or whatever and actually succeed, if you look your best and go up to every single one that your interested in one of them is bound to be that horny little skeez..........