a question kind of on a tangent to this: what is the DEFINITION of a cold approach. If a cold approach is independant of the venue, approaching ANY chick you don't know is a cold approach, whether it be at college, the mall or the club. That is, 90-95% of sets are cold approaches. or is the scope a little more narrowly defined?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Cold approaches do not work.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Heyjose25points
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Good work getting experience. So what if they got two numbers, thats better than none. Like everyone else has been telling you, Experience > Reading Posts.
That's my understanding of the definition of a cold approach: It's independent of venue, she doesn't know you and you don't know her and what makes it a cold approach is there's no mutual friend introducing you..the last part is key.Originally posted by lebRambo
a question kind of on a tangent to this: what is the DEFINITION of a cold approach. If a cold approach is independant of the venue, approaching ANY chick you don't know is a cold approach, whether it be at college, the mall or the club. That is, 90-95% of sets are cold approaches. or is the scope a little more narrowly defined?
big dizzle
Don Juan
Check out my field report from the 4ht of July. I did 6 cold approaches and received 3 #s.
AC I resent that. I play halo with my friends all the time and still get plenty of azz.
Dizz
AC I resent that. I play halo with my friends all the time and still get plenty of azz.
Dizz
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
No one gonna mention that this thread was started by someone who was just watching someone else approach.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DrBeard
Banned
grab yo balls + do **** + funny wid em!
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Cold approaches do work. Be persistent as been said before its a numbers game. Dont go out looking to pull, go out looking to have fun. My intention is to make 10 girls smile tonight or somthing like that.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
I've gotten numbers before with cold approaches so obviously they can work. It's a matter of having the right attitude.
h2o
Banned
seems like there's a "cold approaches don't work" thread once every one or two months...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I think it's a bit more frequent.Originally posted by h2o
seems like there's a "cold approaches don't work" thread once every one or two months...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheCaptain21
Don Juan
they work, but i think how u look plays a big part in it, i cant' picture a scummy looking ugly dude walk up to a girl and throw some line like "wanna ****" or whatever and actually succeed, if you look your best and go up to every single one that your interested in one of them is bound to be that horny little skeez..........