"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Cold approach openers list. How do you start cold approaches? Any ideas?

IamtheAlphamale

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Alright the fact is you need to say the right thing in the right situation to start a conversation with someone. What do you do?

I tried "Do I have a milk Mustache?" when at the mall and girls are walking the other way.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cold approaches = "Hi do you want to ****?"

Or do I remember wrong.

If you're approaching people you haven't met then a "hi" usually works good.
 

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You can just say; "Hi." "Hows it going?" If you were abserving your target.. You may of noticed something about her. Her clothes, jewerly, shoes, hair, sun glasses, bag, dog, book or whatever. If you like something about her or her item, compliment her on it. Or if your curious, ask her about it.

Though, a good way to avoid being rejected is to make eye contact first. If you look in her eyes and read the signs you will know whether you should approach her or not.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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We all know that "how's it going" is fine to open with, but that's not actually an opener because you have to immediately follow with something else or all she's going to do is say "I'm fine" and look at you waiting for you to say something more. I don't know how it is in other English-speaking countries, but in the U.S. when people say "how's it going", they don't mean that literally, it's just a formality. Just like people are programmed to say "fine" in reply if they don't know you, even if they find out their mom just died. So this isn't even real conversation, it's just filler basically.
 

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Remember one thing...She doesn't hear anything at first, she SEES...She doesn't want to understand you. She wants to FEEL you

That's why what you say is not important. But making her feel that you are equal value to her is what you will do. Repeat after me...."NO NEEDINESS"...then just go and say "Hi...I'm Ron".
 

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IamtheAlphamale said:
Alright the fact is you need to say the right thing in the right situation to start a conversation with someone. What do you do?

I tried "Do I have a milk Mustache?" when at the mall and girls are walking the other way.
That's awful. Why not just be a grownup and say "Hi." and make a comment/question about her, her clothes, or things going on around her.

How are you going to start a conversation built on the foundation of you having a milk mustache?
 

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"So what's your story?" always worked great for me, because you're basically putting her in a position where she needs to qualify herself to you. Try it, it always creates a little curiosity in them, which is a good thing.
 

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I'll give you one of the best advice for cold approaches...............................

LEARN HOW TO IMPROVISE...

canned lines and set openers I find are ridiculous. The vibe is awkward and feels forced.

Learn to be funny, and witty.

Then cold approached will no longer be a problem.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I find that the best is to have an observation. If she's wearing a T-shirt from a band you like etc. Sometimes she might be having a conversation that you happen to know a lot about.

I was once sitting next to these chicks discussing UFC. I have to give them credit, they did know a few things. But I've been watching it since before it became popular, so I butted in (politely) and answered some of the questions they were wondering.
 
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