"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Cold approach openers list. How do you start cold approaches? Any ideas?

IamtheAlphamale

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Alright the fact is you need to say the right thing in the right situation to start a conversation with someone. What do you do?

I tried "Do I have a milk Mustache?" when at the mall and girls are walking the other way.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cold approaches = "Hi do you want to ****?"

Or do I remember wrong.

If you're approaching people you haven't met then a "hi" usually works good.
 

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You can just say; "Hi." "Hows it going?" If you were abserving your target.. You may of noticed something about her. Her clothes, jewerly, shoes, hair, sun glasses, bag, dog, book or whatever. If you like something about her or her item, compliment her on it. Or if your curious, ask her about it.

Though, a good way to avoid being rejected is to make eye contact first. If you look in her eyes and read the signs you will know whether you should approach her or not.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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speakeasy

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We all know that "how's it going" is fine to open with, but that's not actually an opener because you have to immediately follow with something else or all she's going to do is say "I'm fine" and look at you waiting for you to say something more. I don't know how it is in other English-speaking countries, but in the U.S. when people say "how's it going", they don't mean that literally, it's just a formality. Just like people are programmed to say "fine" in reply if they don't know you, even if they find out their mom just died. So this isn't even real conversation, it's just filler basically.
 

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Remember one thing...She doesn't hear anything at first, she SEES...She doesn't want to understand you. She wants to FEEL you

That's why what you say is not important. But making her feel that you are equal value to her is what you will do. Repeat after me...."NO NEEDINESS"...then just go and say "Hi...I'm Ron".
 

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IamtheAlphamale said:
Alright the fact is you need to say the right thing in the right situation to start a conversation with someone. What do you do?

I tried "Do I have a milk Mustache?" when at the mall and girls are walking the other way.
That's awful. Why not just be a grownup and say "Hi." and make a comment/question about her, her clothes, or things going on around her.

How are you going to start a conversation built on the foundation of you having a milk mustache?
 

snowdog

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"So what's your story?" always worked great for me, because you're basically putting her in a position where she needs to qualify herself to you. Try it, it always creates a little curiosity in them, which is a good thing.
 

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I'll give you one of the best advice for cold approaches...............................

LEARN HOW TO IMPROVISE...

canned lines and set openers I find are ridiculous. The vibe is awkward and feels forced.

Learn to be funny, and witty.

Then cold approached will no longer be a problem.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I find that the best is to have an observation. If she's wearing a T-shirt from a band you like etc. Sometimes she might be having a conversation that you happen to know a lot about.

I was once sitting next to these chicks discussing UFC. I have to give them credit, they did know a few things. But I've been watching it since before it became popular, so I butted in (politely) and answered some of the questions they were wondering.
 
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